Hello,
For those who have moved to a non-English speaking country, and who are spending a signficant portion of their lives among speakers of this language, what has your experience been in terms of getting to the point where you are fully comfortable with this language, like as comfortable as you are with English?
My situation: I came to France on my own two years ago (age 26) wanting to experience living in another country, learning a language etc while I was still in a position to be able to do this, ie before getting pesky things like mortgages, children and husbands that would tie me to the UK ;-)
I had taken French GCSE at school, but to be honest I think it was completely useless. All I could remember from it were the words for items in my pencil case, and a couple of very basic verbs and conjugations like "have" "am" "go". etc. I therefore spent 6 months before I came doing as much self-study as I could using the fantastic Michel Thomas CDs, and some books etc. So I was at the point upon arrival where I had some vocabulary and knew the grammar of the language, but zero experience of actually having conversations in the language or understanding native speakers speaking at a normal speed. Needless to say I pretty much didn't understand anything I heard for the first few months.
Anyway working as an English teacher didn't exactly afford me much practice speaking French, and I also didn't really know too many French people I could practice with. The life-saver was meeting my (French) boyfriend, who spoke excellent English but encouraged me to speak French with him sometimes nonetheless. Through him, I've obviously spent an increasing amount of time in the company of other French people, ie his friends and family. A lot of his friends have now become good friends of mine too.
So gradually over the last couple of years, my French has got to the point where I am fluent enough to have normal conversations with people without really having to work too hard. Films and television are still difficult but usually I get about 70% of what I'm watching/hearing. The thing that remains really difficult however is being in big groups of French people all talking fast, making jokes, cultural references often with the background noise or music of a bar or restaurant. I still find these situations incredibly difficult and tiring. Usually at least once a week I find myself in this type of situation, at a restaurant with 6 or 7 friends for example, and whilst it is slowly getting better I'm kind of disappointed that its still so difficult to follow these big group conversations, much less be able to contribute a lot myself. To be honest I find it kind of depressing when everyone else is laughing and I either missed the joke through a momentary lack of concentration, or either heard it but didn't understand it. And it happens fairly often.
When will this get better/easier? Can anyone else share their experiences or words of wisdom? Should I already be able to do this after 2 years in country?
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