Firstly I would like to wish everyone on this board who is struggling with illness strength and love. It's such a hard time for everyone. My father (88) was diagnosed with myeloma (bone marrow cancer) last year and is now in his last days in a nursing home. It's been horrible, especially for my mother, who doesn't cope well emotionally when things are hard. But he's old and I've made peace with the situation and just want him to be comfortable until the end. I don't like saying this but hopefully it won't be long now.
Two days ago my brother Mark (54) told me he'd just been diagnosed with prostate cancer and that it's quite advanced. It's likely that it can't be cured but is treatable and he may well have a good few years. We just don't know. He has a treatment plan in place but we're all reeling. I have another brother and we've decided not to tell mum yet but that we will in the next couple of weeks. Our reasoning for this is that it will make it easier on Mark and we can all support him as a family. My fear is that it will crush my mother (she's 83) who is already a very negative person and that she'll never be happy again. I keep thinking that it might be better not to tell her at all and just hope that she passes before Mark does. But that seems very infair on him. Any thoughts please?
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Life-limiting illness
Two family members with cancer
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MrsMiniver · 09/05/2015 09:40
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