Not sure what I'm looking for by posting here - maybe just an outlet...
My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago with metastasised prostate cancer, at which point he became bed bound. A year ago, his hormone treatment stopped working, and he has been receiving palliative care since, in a nursing home funded by the NHS Continuing Healthcare Funding.
Last week he was admitted to hospital with Grade IV (I think) pressure sores, as he was bleeding from an artery. He has lost so much weight, I don't see how his body can keep him going much longer. The hospital are very unhappy with the standard of care he has received at the nursing home, and said they will be reporting this to social services.
Since being in hospital, he has seemed much happier - he is eating the food, being turned with care so he is not in pain every time he is moved. The hospital told him they expect to discharge him next week - he cried He really does not want to go back to that nursing home. However, being under the Continuing Healthcare Funding, we only have a choice of 3 nursing homes in the area, one of which I thought was far worse than the one he is in, and the other I haven't seen (only my mum has).
I don't know what to do. I can't bear to see him sent back to his current nursing home when he is so unhappy there. I honestly think he doesn't have long left - months at most - and so I'd almost rather pay for him to be in a private home, even though I know the cost is huge. I'm not sure my mum would be happy with that though - after all, it is their money.
He is receiving support from a local hospice, and he made the decision some time ago that he would like to die there, but I am not sure at what point they would take him as an in-patient. He would be very happy to be there, but I know they are a charity and as such, have limited space available.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can share their thoughts and experiences with me?
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Life-limiting illness
Dad due to be discharged from hospital - really doesn't want to return to nursing home
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TeaandHobnobs · 13/02/2015 09:56
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