I’ll try to give as much info as possible. Doesn’t help that I don’t have contact order to hand
- court stated late 2018 father was to have weekly supervised contact on a Saturday to reestablish the relationship. This was not overnight and for a period of 8 hours. Magistrates not looking to change this until the final hearing. Contact has been predominantly every other week due to father not being able to organise supervisors
- list of supervisors was agreed. Father wanted his own father as supervised but after hearing concerns were not agreeable. Father has asked on a further 6 occasions for his father to be included and I have refused to allow this, my solicitor has contacts his twice asking him to stop asking
- holiday within the uk and two hours from home for Friday- Tuesday (this August weekend) was booked in February, in the knowledge that there was a hearing in March and a final hearing would be before where this could be discussed
- I THINK holiday was mentioned in pre March hearing position statement. When it was mentioned towards the end of the March hearing the fathers counsel dismissed it and said we could discuss it at the next hearing set for May
- may hearing was cancelled and no date for final hearing was set as Father was apparently completely unavailable on weekdays until January.
- I text father 24th June informing him of this trip. He did not acknowledge receipt of this text though did respond asking if I had seen his email (another request to add his father to list of supervisors)
- father emailed Monday morning mentioning trip and how he is happy for child to do things that benefit him. But as it’s at a weekend, can he have him on Thursday instead and no supervisors are available but his dad is. I responded saying that I am not in agreement to his father supervising and he is not on the list and that he is welcome to see him Thursday if one of the named supervisors are available
- he responded saying that he will just have to see him on Saturday then ‘as per the court order’
I haven’t had a chance to speak to my solicitor yet but I can’t work out if I’m in breach of the order if we go away as the order does state every week (as an aside- how are families supposed to plan holidays when dealing with a controlling ex? When weekly is ordered ) my ex is incredibly controlling and difficult which has been acknowledged by the courts and this is the reason we are holidaying in the UK, as I could anticipate difficulties. I’m just wondering if going is going to backfire on me?