Seeing ex's family

[E0717]

Hi everyone. Me and my ex broke up 8 months ago. I get on well with his family and take our little boy to see his family. Me and my ex had an argument about something else but he is now saying he's going to take me to court to stop me having contact with his family and to stop me taking our son to see them. Can he get a court order to say contact with his family has to be done through him? Thank you in advance.

[Smeddum]

No.

[E0717]

Thank you

[Smeddum]

Sorry I didn’t mean that to be so blunt, I was typing with one hand (making a cuppy).

No, he can’t stop you seeing them or taking your son to see them unless he has legal grounds (ie safeguarding). He’s being a dick and trying to threaten/scare you. He’d get laughed out of court.

[E0717]

It's ok. I need a blunt answer to stop me panicking. He says that if me and him went to court he could have it put in the court order. He claims it's causing animosity between me and him. But basically he's jealous that I get on with them well. I thought it was a scare attic. Thank you x

[Smeddum]

I’m glad I’ve helped my ex tried every scare tactic in the book. Because he knew he was wrong and couldn’t bear losing control of me. Your ex sounds similar.

It’s lovely that you have a good relationship with his family, and it’s good for you and your son to have their support too!

[E0717]

Yeah he know me it upsets me. We have such a good relationship me and his family it's him who's jealous x

[MrsBertBibby]

I suppose he could, if his family were child-abusing crackheads with a bouquet of sexual and violent offences to their credit.

But otherwise, no, he won't get far.

[E0717]

Their definetly not. They are lovely people

[MrsBertBibby]

There you go, then. Carry on, and let him fume. Do his family know what he is saying? Obviously I don't recommend stirring it, but if he were to make such an application, they would need to know.

[E0717]

Yeah his family know. He's actually said it to his sister and she'd rang me upset. His whole family now know and aren't happy

[MrsBertBibby]

I'd just reassure them you're happy to maintain your friendship, and try to keep the drama low.

Families do have a habit of swinging into line behind their own members, so I would tread a little carefully, just in case.

[tishhope]

OP's son is a member of her ex's family. I think it can only be good for his son to maintain contact with his family on your ex's side. What a complete dick your ex is being OP.

[DoryNow]

Keep saying to the family that you want your boy to grow up knowing them all and that won't change on your side.
Make it all about the boy having contact with them, no mention of your ex if possible, keep it very low key chat say about the little one & resist being drawn into any discussion about ex.
I always think the saddest bit of some divorces is the child losing contact with beloved aunties/uncles, grandparents and cousins, all important people in his world and heartbreaking for them to lose him to .
Well done you for keeping it civil with them for your little boys sake, ignore your ex, He's just throwing a paddy like a petulant child.

[E0717]

I've let them know I'm happy to carry on seeing them and that we enjoy our visits. I've told them I want our son to have a strong relationship with everyone in his family and that will not change. And yeah we rarely talk about my ex on visits unless it's to clarify stuff as my ex has a habit of telling people different lies and information. Thank you everyone. I thought it could only be a positive that I take our son visiting. We're going to enjoy a visit with ex's mum today

[IveGotNoClothes]

Ex is a jealous prick!!

Absolutely feck all he can do. Tell him to get his head out his ass.

[E0717]

He is jealous. He's been told to grow up