Spent all of dad's money

[Mumsturn4]

Hi, not sure what to do next.
My dad passed away and I found out he was penniless ( ds spent all of his money)
I have bank statements etc but she won't admit it - says she had verbal power of attorney from dad then in the next breath says dad couldn't speak due to his stroke!
This was in front of a police officer at a restorative justice meeting ( she assaulted me) she didn't really apologise and I felt it was all a waste of time. The police say it's a civil matter and to see a solicitor, all I want is for her to admit what she's done I have stated that I have no interest in dad's money right from the start.
Where do I go from here?

[GreenTulips]

Get a solicitor

It's theft

Is there a will

Is there a property to sell? Any goods in he property?

[Hulder]

What do you want to achieve?

There is no money. You didn't want it anyway. She sounds like a shit. She has more than likely committed financial abuse - there is no 'verbal power of attorney', however trying to doing anything about it now will probably be horrendously difficult - any evidence Dad went without or will just be able to say she had his consent?

Think on it, may be see a solicitor. However your best option may be to cut off your sister and never have anything to do with her again.

If she is already assaulting you, and restorative justice felt like a waste time I think you should accept that your preferred option of 'she admits what she has done and is sorry' is not going to happen.

[Topseyt]

There is absolutely no such thing as verbal power of attorney. It all has to be done in writing and via the official channels.

You need a solicitor, if you think that the outcome could be worth the money.

[Topseyt]

It could well be worthwhile getting a solicitor involved if there is a property to sell. Greentulips has a point there.

[Changednamejustincase]

Was she looking after your father after he had his stroke?

[Mumsturn4]

Thanks everyone,
I think it's probably best if I just cut her out of my life.
Dad was financing a very nice life for them - which I imagine will go downhill in the coming months.
They both work, dad was housebound, she had his cards, dad paid for all of the household bills - so their wages were just 'pocket money '
I registered dad's death and froze his accounts so I have access and proof of what he had and when money was taken out - I am at a complete loss with all of it - we weren't brought up like this.
Her dh says she has a shopping problem but he is obviously scared of her, I also feel worried about her child as she is very unpredictable and very bad tempered.
I will cut her out but have made an appointment with our solicitor just to talk it through and then I'm done.
Thanks again x

[Oldie2017]

Depends on the amount. If she has a £100k car and £50k of handbags bought with his money in her house it might be worth pursuing but even then might be hard to prove he did not choose to give her that. if it's just they both got through about £20k in the last year from fairly expensive lunches etc then not worth bothering about sadly.