Background stuff... Left my exH a couple of years ago and have struggled to get any maintenance out of him for the last 18months since he found a new partner.
He had limited contact with the DCs and after threatening CMS, I decided to open a case with them. He refused to co-operate with them and pretended to be unemployed for a long time even when I knew he was working. He is currently lying about his income and hiding his wages by having them paid to his partner.
Anyway, in June, a month after the CMS withdrew some money from his bank to provide me with support, he and my DS decide that my DS would be happier living with him. My DD refuses to see her father as she can see how manipulating and controlling he is.
As we had shared responsibilities, I had no legal way to stop my DS leaving. It was awful, but we have agreed that my DS can stay with me every other weekend and once during the week.
My exH has now applied for CMS against me for DS.
As I work and have a permanent position, unlike his self employed secretive stuff - I have to pay him more than he pays me.
He has racked up almost £2K of arrears in payments with the CMS.
Stupidly, I assumed that since we have one child each and I see my son approx 126 days a year - we would cancel each other out.
I was wrong.
CMS advise me that I have to pay £56 a week for my son, whereas I would only receive £39 a week for my daughter.
However, as exH has no interest in paying me - I won't see that money.
I asked couldn't one cancel out the other and then they take from the arrears to cover the shortfall - but was told no, they can't do that. The system is not built for that.
So I have struggled without financial help from my exH for the last 2 years to now have to start handing money over to him.
I don't want to get in trouble with the CMS, but the system seems so unfair and I don't know what to do.
Can anyone give me some advice?
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Ladygaggia · 15/08/2017 14:44
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