Hi All I'm new to this but my ex is taking me back to court for the 2nd time. He took me to court when daughter was 2years old suggesting I had stopped him from seeing her. Yet to be proven to have lied. Then after I drew arrangements up with court he never stuck to them. Therefore being absent for long periods of time to date.
Now he's at it again. Only my daughter is now 8 with no relationship her father- devoid of emotion. Ex has put a application in to suggest once again I am stopping him. His statements are completely contradicting. He says he has access every other weekend which has been stopped for no reason, yet never has there been any arrangement of alternate weekends.
We went to court, he got solicitor last minute which left me very under hand. Had three awful magistrates that had been presented with statements like they'd asked for. But yet never read. And the long and short of it is they have just allowed themselves to believe that he's always had access. Very far from the truth.
I have now had to get a solicitor and we go back in October. I feel massively let down by the magistrates, says this is all in child's best interests yet they have told me I have to force her... It would be like forcing her with a stranger! It's massively desires sing because you are trying to encourage your child but go against her wishes, she wants nothing to do with him. I want to support her but he's trying to make it look like I'm an obstruction. My statement has been truth and on oath and his has been complete lies. If only magistrates had read our statements it would have been clear.
My youngest daughter has a different dad, we separated a few years ago and we have a great friendship and my youngest sees him every other weekend. Does this not prove I'm not a controlling mother. The father of my youngest did a statement on behalf of me as he knows the ex is a complete liar. Also knows how my eldest feels about her biological dad. Yet no statements have been read.
Do I get a solicitor or do I get a barrister? Because I'm constantly in tears for how unfair and unjust this all is for my daughter. Both my girls live a very privileged lifestyle which I alone provide. How do you force a 8year old mature girl to go to somewhere she cries about going. She doesn't trust him at all. Any advice would be great guys. This is the hardest emotionally draining thing I've ever had to witness.
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user1472305808 · 27/08/2016 22:31
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