Long story short; I was in a relationship and got pregnant. My sons father is on his birth certificate but left us and moved 200 miles away when DS was 3 months old and hasn't seen him since or contacted us (he's now 2.5).
I had a conversation with my uncle over Christmas about how if I died my son would automatically go to live with his dad. There are many reason that this terrifies me:
Ex was emotionally and physically abusive to me (though I never went to police so no record)
-He abused alocohol and drugs
-He admitted to having auditory hallucinations and said that 'they told him to hurt people' (whether this actually happened or if he thought it would excuse his abuse, I don't know).
-When he was living with us he paid absolutely no attention to my son and spent all of our money on drink.
-He's incredibly unstable.
Is there anything I can do to stop this happening if I were to pass away? My son would be much happier living with his grandparents (my mum and dad), as he actually knows and has a great relationship with them and they would of course prefer to look after him if that were to happen.
I have no health issues or anything that makes me think my time is short but I can't stop worrying about this.
Sorry, i tried to make it short. TIA
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TheLittleLion · 05/01/2016 15:33
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