Hello, I am living in the uk with my ten year old son who was born here, we both want to go back to New Zealand. I am from NZ, so all my family and support are there. I have stayed here for the last 8 years because of my career but I want to go home with my child now and have work set up, starting in January. I have to move out my house here on the 20th December and all of a sudden the father of my child is refusing to let us leave even though he has been entirely disinterested in his son for the last 9 years. He is on the birth certificate so he has parental responsibility so he has rights. He doesn't care that we will be made homeless or that I have work and family waiting for me in NZ. My son wants to leave and his father refuses to listen.
Has anyone been through his situation? Do you have advice? I live in the countryside and can't afford expensive lawyers and am about to be made homeless. How can I get this sped up through the courts? I financially support my son, his dad has never helped, so it is essential that I go home to work, to earn money... How can I ensure the courts see this as an emergency?
I am taking it to court because the father won't let us leave. I had no idea he would not let us leave he has never cared what we do or where we go. We have lived in NZ before when my son was very tiny for over a year. he was the one that drove us to the airport. So now that the dad has said he won't give permission, because he found out about us travelling I have to apply to the courts. If I had known he was going to do this I obviously would have applied much sooner. Now I am about to be made homeless, its a nightmare !!!
We successfully opposed my Dh batshit-crazy ex wife moving to a wholly unsuitable country with his two youngest. It was extremely touch and go though. And this is from a father who has never ever missed fortnightly contact in 9 yrs. Pays 3x the cms calculation of appropriate maintenance and children who have significant special needs. - the country she was proposing has absolutely know SN provision. This last part was the ONLY reason that the Judge refused the move. CAFCASS did a report of the children's views where they came firmly down on the mothers side. The children had been sold the 'new country' as nothing short of paradise on earth and had drummed into them how distraught mummy would be if they didn't want to go... I tell you all this to give you hope. If a committed, loved father can come within a hairs breadth of losing his children because of their mothers wishes, then I doubt very much that the Judge will uphold the wishes of a father has shown no interest in the child up till now. Is that the case ? I have read your post as him not having any relationship with your child at all.