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Advice about separation/ property involved

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Gardenchairs Thu 18-Jun-15 20:09:20

Today I found phone nos on my husband's phone for escorts (thread in Relationships). At the moment, before the shock sets in, I am posting about practical matters. We own a small number of properties and have a few thousand savings. The properties have equity in them. I am a SAHM who gave up a career I did not really like, but I do occasional freelance in another area of the industry, so my personal income stream is low. However, could it be argued that I gave up my career to enable that of my husband? He is a high earner and so we do not qualify for benefits. I do the vast bulk of the childcare. We have a couple of loans in his name eg car loan which amount to a few thousand. I do not want to sound like a callous cow, just setting out the facts. Before I confront my husband, would anyone be able to tell me what may happen should we go down the divorce road? I want to protect my position, and that of my DC. I think my husband is the type to play ball and declare all incomes (but who knows). Any advice would be most gratefully received. Thank you so much smile

Freeme888 Thu 18-Jun-15 20:16:47

Dont expect an easy time. I'm in a similar boat. No work for 19 years supporting husband & I've been asked to produce a full 'business plan' detailing what income I'm expecting to create for myself. Not only that, most of our assets were 'pre-owned' meaning I'm looking at a 70/30 split in his favour at best. You'll get something hopefully to tide you over whilst you retrain.

Gardenchairs Thu 18-Jun-15 20:31:32

So sorry to hear of your position. How would you pay for retraining, if that is what you are faced with? I owned properties before but sold them and spent some money on decorating current house with the equity. I should still have proof eg cheque stubs. So any properties he owned he could retain? Sorry to sound so callously practical but I just can't think straight at the moment.

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