If there are any lawyers who know about marital property/financial rights, etc, I would really appreciate some advice as my DM is in a very tricky situation regarding her second DH.
They have been married for more than 30 years. When they married they both had DC from previous marriages, but have had none since. My step-father owned the home my DM (and my sister and I), moved into. He'd owned it for 11 years at this point and somehow held onto it during his divorce.
Since their marriage in 1982 he has kept all his salary in his own bank account. He allows my DM his bank card to withdraw money purely for 'house-keeping', nothing else. She has a credit card that she has generally paid for herself (despite being a housewife most of their married life - a situation jointly agreed). He has occasionally deigned to pay it off, but rarely.
When the marital home was sold at a great profit in 2002 he kept all the money - she never saw a penny of it. Part of it went to build a new home for them, a large chunk went into a trust fund for his DC, and the rest is cash that he keeps at his disposal. They also have a property abroad, which is the third one they've owned. Number one was a very cheap house he bought with inheritance money. Number two was more expensive and bought with a combination of the proceeds of number one and cash. And number three was cheaper than number two and he kept the difference - it went into his bank account and my DM has never seen a penny of it.
He readily admits that he thinks the money he's earned during his life is 'his' (he was a GP, btw, so made a good salary and has a generous pension), and he doesn't see anything wrong in the situation that they are now in, which is that he is a wealthy man who buys whatever he wants, and this year has made a loan to his eldest son of £60k without telling my DM (he told me, she still doesn't know, but I've told him he has to tell her or I will), while the only money my DM has access to is her basic state pension.
I have told her many times to seek legal advice about this situation, as I can see that its financially abusive, but she is afraid of him because he's a bully. If anyone can shed some light on her rights, that would be great. I don't know if its my place to interfere and I don't know that I can really do anything anyway, but I'd love to know what the legal take on all this is. And if you've managed to read all that, thank you!
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Need advice about marital financial rights - second marriage
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juneau · 18/12/2014 12:36
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