ex, dd & me

[lounear35]

ok so 10yrs ago ex walked out leaving me and dd 17months old. went thru divorce and got a court order for contact so it was set in stone, over the years between the two of us we adapted times and changed days of order to suit events plans etc. now my daughter has reached 11yrs old and doesn't want to go. he has re married as I have and he has two more toddler girls ( I have another child also) dd admits she has nothing in common with dad and less with her step mum. he hasnt provided for her financially over the years but we (hubby and me) have given her everything. ex says dd is spoilt by us and that's y she doesn't like going to him (prob true but I believe life is hard enough as an adult so enjoy being a kid and I want to give my children opportunities I didn't have)
dd has just started grammar school and has loads of homework he wont allow homework at his house as it uses his contact time so dd says she wont go. last night ex called me a disgusting parent and launched a load of abuse as to how I brain wash dd not to go to him. I tried to xplain that its me who is making her go the last yr when she didn't want to, it was me who broke the lock on her door when she found how to lock it so she didn't have to go to him and I had to pull her out to him.
can I force do I have to make my 11 yr old go to her dad if she point blank refuses to go...sorry its long winded x

[StrippedPJs]

She's at an age now where the courts would listen to her view regarding contact with her father. If she doesn't want to go I wouldn't force her but maybe let her explain, maybe you can add in telephone calls/texts and get her to explain as well as you she HAS to do her homework whilst she is there and no isn't acceptable!