When will this end ? Contact/abusive Ex.

[Onebuddhaisnotenough]

After 2 long years and a gradual reintroduction of contact following abuse of the kids, I 'thought' that after a final hearing, the contact arrangements he agreed to at court and which were rubber stamped by the judge and sent to me by my solicitor as a 'final order' would be the contact arrangements we moved forward with.

But I have just opened my emails and have 4 more rants about amendments that he wants made to the order (Forwarded to me by my solicitor - he's even taken the draft order, C&P'd and inserted his own demands )

I have absolute faith in my solicitor but I have another sleepless night ahead, have a full day at work tomorrow and won't get to speak to her. Can anybody reassure me that if I instruct her to tell him that I am not agreeing to any more amendments to the order that was agreed in court, that this can be finalised?

It seems so strange that we/ve gone through courts/childrens officers/social services/NSPCC courses and he can still just demand what he wants ? The final order was only agreed last week.

Please help

[geologygirl]

Stick to you guns and make no further amendments. If he had other ideas the place to raise them was I court! 2yrs of drama and seems like he quite enjoys making things hard. Its his way of abusing you and trying to be top dog. Don't let him keep bullying and abusing you! Ive been through that whole cycle too, and its not healthy for you or your kids. Stick with what was decided and leave it at that.

[mumblechum1]

The "final" order could be reviewed when circumstances change, ie as the children get older or if one of you moves away, for example, but so soon after the last order, it is unlikely that the court will entertain a further application by your ex.

[bibliomania]

What mumblechum said. I can't see a court entertaining this. If he tries this on repeatedly, you can ask the court for an order which would prevent him making any further applications to the court for the next year or two - worth asking your solicitor about.