Hi
I was looking for some suggestions/ advice please
Long story short is my partner has 2 children with his ex, always arguing he was forever moving back to his mums whilst he was at his mums which was very regular his ex would bring his daughter round to his mums so he could continue to see her, and she would collect her later that day. He would also on occasions go to his Ex?s flat to see his daughter. After his son was born (they had split up just before she found out she was pg) she also took both children to his mums and collected the baby later that day and he had his daughter overnight. Accused him twice of assaulting her during their many arguments which he was found not guilty in court for. She stopped contact after his son was born as she finally realized that my dp was certain that they would not get back together. Since then he has gone through solicitors she has made up lots of lies and he now needs to apply to court, which he has been saving to do and will be applying next month. When he gets to court he has proof she is lying, she says he is a drug user he has drug test results all clear, she continued to allow contact until she realized they wouldn?t get back together so stopped contact we have proof of this too, so although court could be lengthy we are confident he will get a contact order, she thinks she will be able to lie her way through court so he gets no contact at all. So far she has been good at manipulating the system!!
My question is what sort of contact does he request??
The reason I ask is originally he was going to request an interim order to start seeing the children right away prob at supported contact centre due to it being nearly a year he hasn?t seen them. Then he was going to request a couple of hours in afternoon a couple times a week slowly increasing to alternate weekends then over night. He works nights which is why he was asking for a few hours in afternoons to begin with, the children are only nearly 1 and just turned 2 so contact will have to be taken slowly.
However now my dp is unsure what to do, his ex has been yet again arrested for assault and affray charged and at court given a 12 month conditional discharge. The thing dp is extremely concerned about is his children were with her when she was fighting, the police arrived arrested everyone involved and had to follow her to her mums so she could drop the kids off and then she was taken to police station and there for 17 hours. My dp isnt happy that his children are being exposed to this sort of thing but isnt sure what he can or cant do about it. There are other issues like her dumping the kids with anyone so she can always go out etc but if he was seeing them on a regular basis these things wouldn?t be so bad.
He would love to have them full time as he doesn?t believe she is doing the best by the children, he doesn?t think they are mistreated in the sense they are fed and bathed etc but they are left to play so she can go online, or she dumps them with whoever to go out, dp is realistic though that the courts would only move children from their mum and their home for serious reasons were guessing like neglect etc and whilst her fighting and being arrested especially in front of the children is serious were aware it probably wouldn?t be enough for him to be able to have them live with him full time.
My dp has only ever had involvement with the police whilst he was with her, nothing before or since splitting from her, his ex on the other hand had been arrested for assault before she was with my dp and obviously since they have split too. This was a big reason my dp ended things because of the violence and police, he didn?t want his children around that sort of thing.
So what I am really asking is, does he continue to just apply for the contact as mentioned or is there something more he can do in court to ensure these children aren?t subjected to these things anymore
His solicitor is on holiday for another week so we were just looking for a bit of advice now if someone can help??? :)
Thanks!!
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courthelpneeded · 22/09/2011 10:18
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