My ds is 10 and I really need to make a will. My fathers sudden death last year, being involved in a nasty car accident which was nearly fatal but thankfully I made the right split second decision and my mother being very unwell - fairly advanced COPD have made me realise life is a bit short.
I've never known who to leave my ds's guardianship to though. my dp's were old and my dm although adores him might not be the best person for him to live a happy life if I were to snuff it. My db has just separated from my sil and he is quite a serious and reserved person and not exactly child friendly right now (though he might be if he meets a nice happy person)
I split up with ds's father during my pregnancy and returned from nz. his dad has been involved and they are in touch even though they don't see each other often as dad is in nz. DS dad has met a nice woman and has a 9mth old baby and ds is with them now as they are visiting. I think strongly that in the event of my death the best person for my ds to be with is his dad and his family so that he will be able to grieve and then live a normal life and not be in a situation where his beloved gm will probably not see his 16th birthday and his whole young life will be spent in grief.
The only problem is ds dad was a complete tosser when ds was a baby and when I asked him if he wanted to be put on the birth certificate he said "will it cost me anything" I was revolted and refused to discuss it further (I have never asked for maintenance and never expected or wanted to) So ds doesn't have any legal relationship to his dad and doesn't have a NZ passport.
Can I leave the care of my ds to someone who he has no legal relationship with? I know I need to consult a solicitor but thought I'd try here first to give myself an idea of what I'm asking
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Legal Guardianship of DS in will
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cinnamonswirls · 30/05/2011 17:30
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