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Are people always asking you "so are you done now?"

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Ceolas · 27/03/2008 11:39

Or have they given up?!

I get asked this a lot and always reply "Never say never". To which the reply is usually along the lines of "You must be mad!"

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Earlybird · 27/03/2008 11:40

How many have you got?

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buttercreamfrosting · 27/03/2008 11:42

I always give the same reply but I 'only' have 3....

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Nemoandthefishes · 27/03/2008 11:43

I get that but again only have 3..although to be fair I know we arent done..lol

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SilentTerror · 27/03/2008 11:44

Yes,always!
I have four but with big gaps so we have surprised people before,particulary with the last one.
I always say yes to that question,as we have!

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stripeybumpsmum · 27/03/2008 11:45

I am really sick of people saying 'oh, one of each, how nice you don't need to have any more'

Plan is for lots more thanks very much

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Zola78 · 27/03/2008 11:47

I always get "you've got your hands full". Followed by "At least their all out the way"!! Bizarre the assumptions people make.

I too have 3 children (all boys 3, 2 and 11 weeks)

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Ceolas · 27/03/2008 11:48

I have 4

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Disenchanted · 27/03/2008 11:49

I only have 2 boys (3 &1) but people ask me this too!

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Zola78 · 27/03/2008 11:50

I forgot to mention "are they all yours" and " Nevermind, are you going to try for the girl?"

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Nemoandthefishes · 27/03/2008 11:51

silent terror how do big gaps work??
I have 3 in a very small gap and the idea of a big gap scares me..

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pedilia · 27/03/2008 11:51

One of my Mums first comments on being told about this pregnancy (DD4) was

"are you going to be strelised after this one"

And that has what to do with you and NO actually

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lilyloo · 27/03/2008 11:52

I have 3 and best one i had when pg this time was " i can't keep up with how many you have"

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lilyloo · 27/03/2008 11:53

Sould have said "you obviously have a problem counting to 3 then!"

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PotPourri · 27/03/2008 11:53

I always just say 'well, I'll see how I get on with x amount before making any plans'. It's not their business frankly. Are they really expecting you to say - nah, I want 6...

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SilentTerror · 27/03/2008 11:58

Nemo, I don't think we would have managed 4 close together tbh.
Difficult with toddlers and teenagers,juggling driving lessons and immunisations,but not as bad physically I don't t hink.
DD1 now can take DD2 to school and collect if I need her to,and she babysat all of them yesterday!
DD2 is 9 and she is fantastic with the 2 yr old,really excellent, gets her toys,food,drinks,has even been known to change a nappy!
I think it keeps us young,but we will find our friends are at different stages to us in a few years I think. Not too bad now as our middle ones are the same ages as theirs,but I will be still doing the school run when they are grandparents no doubt!

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Zola78 · 27/03/2008 12:00

Nemo and the fishes, your age gaps are the same as mine except your a year ahead. Please tell me it gets easier. I'm struggling with getting the baby to have regular nap times around the older chilren's activities

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sorkycake · 27/03/2008 13:00

and the blimey how do you cope? very well thank you I'm a rather good mother.

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horsish · 27/03/2008 13:03

I have been asked that after each child including the first

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magnolia74 · 27/03/2008 13:14

All the time, those that know me well I get 'So when's the next one?'

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mrbojangles · 27/03/2008 20:37

Same here.... always asked if we are done yet followed by "dont you want to try for a girl?"
We have 4 boys
Dont know why people think I would not be happy with my boys, its like they think I have just duplicated the first boy another three times and the fact that they are all boys means they are all the same in every way when infact they are very different.

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PaulaYatesBiggestFan · 27/03/2008 23:54

all the time all the time

i used to say yes but i did think 5 was

now i just say 'never say never'

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