Pregnant with #3 and crying my eyes out that we won't be able to have any more because I get too sick

[PerspicaciousGreen]

I was fine with morning sickness with #1, but with #2 I was in bed for weeks even with meds. Now with #3 I'm eight weeks pregnant and on two morning sickness meds and I'm absolutely useless. DH has been doing everything for a week now and it shows no signs of stopping. I had six weeks of this with #2 and there's no way we can keep going through this. I can manage to keep myself healthy (drinking enough and eating bits and bobs) as long as I do nothing else at all but lay around in bed and have baths.

I'm so upset that this will have to be our last baby because we can't keep doing this every pregnancy. I've got lucky with the circumstances that DH has been able to take over with pregnancies 2 & 3 but he won't have this much flexibility again. I'm all hormonal and sobbing over how awful I feel and how gutted I am that we'll never be able to have another baby. I hate the first trimester and tbh I hate little babies but our lovely DC are just so wonderful and we all love each other so much and I wish we could have more, but this has got to be the last time and I'm so pregnantly upset about it right now.

Please tell me there are others who've felt this way! And that my hormones will calm down soon!

[Mishmased]

I'm in a similar boat with number 3. Had two straightforward pregnancies conceived first time no nausea, morning sickness or aversions. We planned to have 2.5 years between ours and we have 2.5 years and two weeks. We then decided to have a break for a while and when youngest was 4 decided on a third. I remember DH saying let's not push our luck, and maybe stick with two. I thought it's just pregnancy not an illness. Boy was I wrong; I had nausea from 6 weeks, SPD from 9 weeks both still ongoing at 33 weeks thank goodness for weekly maternity physiotherapist. Severe food aversion, borderline anaemia, suspected clots in lungs leading to hospitalisation.
I haven't cooked a proper meal since November as DH has taken over the cooking. I spend my days off work recovering so cannot do much. I ended up being signed off sick at 31 weeks. I'm on two anti sickness meds which are helping but they make me drowsy.
We were always going to stop at 3 kids but this pregnancy reaffirmed that decision. I hope it gets better for you. You're not alone.x

[Mishmased]

Please don't cry, take it easy and try to enjoy the experience. Not great I know but it goes so quickly.x

[RunningFromInsanity]

Why do you need another?
You will have 3 perfectly wonderful children.

Enjoy what you have.

[ladygindiva]

I know how rough you're feeling, both my pregnancies were like this, severe morning sickness every day until delivery, anaemia, weakness, spd, sciatica. Especially bad with the second, although the sickness wasn't so bad everything else was so awful I would have preferred the non stop barfing of pregnancy 1 tbh. I hated pregnancy and felt dreadful every minute. You have my sympathies x

[Mamabearwhere]

I know how you feel. We always thought we wanted 4 kids but currently pregnant with 3rd and the nausea/sickness/fatigue has been so brutal it’s knocked me off my feet for 4 months. I’ve not done anything except for sleep/sit and it has made us decide we won’t be having anymore. It makes me sad but I think I’d feel worse if I was out of action for 4 months unable to look after my family again. I’m slowly coming to terms with it. And I’m also hoping I won’t forget the brutal first trimester in 2 years and end up trying!.

[stalachtiteorstalagmite]

In the nicest possible way, it is just your hormones talking. Three children is plenty and more than many people can have.