As a large family would you feel awkward

[Nicpem1982]

I have one dc but we have friends coming for a get together who have 4, were recent friends so dont have a history to know this

As they're coming pre Christmas i wanted to get their dcs a small token from us talking chocolate santa and a small activity book each.

I know from conversations that weve had that are not in a position to reciprocate and that is absolutely fine by me.

Would you as a larger family feel awkward if someone did this?

[MrsCar]

Not at all op, but really, I'd find it very hard to believe that they couldn't even afford to buy your child a chocolate santa or a Christmas goodie bag (I've seen them in Primark for less than £2)

You're doing a lovely thing. Not many with 4 get invited for get togethers

[pinkpeoniesplease]

Why don't you just get 5 and say it's something for them to do together with your child? Make it an activity for the day whilst they're at your house.

[Nicpem1982]

Mrs car- theyre in a difficult work situation at the min so i know theyre in a hard situation and its fine.

Pink - ive made some activity bags for them already to do together, ive made some pompom snowballs for an indoor snowball fight and weve got a xmas movie and were moving the furniture and using dhs projector to make a cinema so im hoping that keeps them busy

[BigFatBloomers]

That sounds lovely.
You could always give them the gifts as they're leaving, a bit like a party bag, giving the parents no time to feel awkward.

[Nicpem1982]

Thats a good idea!

[TinklyLittleLaugh]

You're doing a lovely thing. Not many with four are invited for get togethers

Really? I have four; we're not a charity case. We get plenty of invitations thank you.

[Santaispackinghissleigh]

Your friend is lucky you are nice ime!! My so called (ex) bff used to check how many of my dc I had with me if I was in her area!!
Larger families are best in December imo!!

[MyDcAreMarvel]

but really, I'd find it very hard to believe that they couldn't even afford to buy your child a chocolate santa or a Christmas goodie bag
Must be lovely in your bubble MrsCar.

[MrsCar]

Well I have 3 and we used to get invited to a lot more family get togethers when we had just one or two. I understand that.
Likewise, I'd be slower to invite a family of 6 to my house.

I hardly meant that they were a 'charity case', what an over reaction 🙄