Dh wants baby number 6

[Claire129]

Hi we have 5 gorgeous kids, dd age 15, dd age 13, ds age 9, dd age 3 and dd age 9 months and my dh has said he would like another baby. We have had our loft converted for the 2 eldest girls so we live in a 4 bedroom. I am going back to work in 4 weeks affer maternity leave so I will work part time and my dh works full time. I know it will be hard work im just so scared what other peoplw will think and how we will be judged as i had alot of negativity with my last baby. Please can anyone advise me or has anyone been in this situation? X

[Pinkdiva]

Just do it if that's what you want I'm TTC number 4 would have loved a large family but I'm nearly 29... 😟

[ovenchips]

You've said what your husband wants but you haven't said if you agree. That's what I would be focusing on, rather than what others would think. You have a tremendous amount on your plate so I think the decision to have a sixth child should not be taken lightly.

[Pipestheghost]

Most importantly, do YOU want another baby? Therein lies your answer.

[Twitterqueen]

Pink nearly 29?! really? OMG.... sweetie, I didn't start until I was 35 so that's no reason at all

OP I am the eldest of 5. People used to stare at us when we were all little - there are only 6 years between me and youngest sibling.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Do YOU want another child? I would have had 4 if I'd been younger, but stopped at 3. I also never enjoyed being pregnant particularly. If you can cope with having to have a minibus for a car, no (or extremely expensive) holidays, go for it.

[Pollyputhtekettleon]

Pink, that's a typo right? You meant 39...

[maybebabybee]

Pink nearly 29?! You have ages left. My mum had her fourth at 37.

[Hassled]

It sounds to me like you have your hands full - and I think if you were fully on board you wouldn't be posting here. It's not about what other people think or what your DH wants - it's about whether you could cope on a day to day basis with one more child.

[Lweji]

As others said, what do YOU want?

[Claire129]

Thanks everyone for your responses, i werent sure what i wanted and ive certainly thought about what you all said and yes i would love another but tbh im concerned what other people would say and i dont know if im syrong enough for all the negativity. I know i shouldnt care but people judge large families and ive been judged alreafy and had awful comments from people about having 4&5 kids so can you imagine 6. I adore my kids and i work part time and my dh works full time so why should people judge. We live in a society where people assume the worst and thats what scares me. Please can anyone reassure me as my dh is so lovely but his response is who cares as long as we are happy xxxx

[Tsotofamily]

Claire I agree with your husband, like you said you both work, you look after and love your children so why let people's opinions stop you from having another. Unfortunately people are to quick to have an opinion, if it's not you having number 6 it will be something else. I'm having no.4 and I've had a few people say oh no your need to move how will you fit an extra one in the house. Ok house isn't massive but there's room, we will manage. We always do, I'm happy, kids are happy so bugger off.

[Claire129]

Thanks Tsotofamily i know you are right, i need to toughen up. I spend my lufe worrying what others think and say. Congratulations on baby no 4 and stuff what other people say. Like you say we live in a society that judge on weight, colour, wealth and family size. Good luck with your pregnancy xxx