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Uber barrens?(13 Posts)
Anyone still around? It all feels very quiet now.
I’ve name changed (someone recognised me IRL) so not much use me posting really, but didn’t want you to feel like you were the only one who hadnt got pregnant. I’m definitely still barren as fuck. Five years of infertility fun times now
Thanks yurtle, sorry to hear things haven’t worked out for you either.
Struggling a bit at the moment with all the Christmas plans and last friend announcing a pregnancy. Feels like there’s nobody to talk to who really gets it.
That’s a weird coincidence - my last non babied friend told me she’s pregnant recently too. That stung. Sorry the Christmas stuff is getting you down. Last year I had a bit of a melt down about all that. Any chance of escaping somewhere warm with endless cocktails?
Actual Christmas will be ok, have a meet up with friends where we’re the only ones without kids and there are four new babies since last year. It’s really hard. I don’t want to not see them but I just can’t see how to get through it without making it all about me. Just feel like a total bitch for feeling like this.
Absolutely not a bitch. It’s a shit situation and that you want to try to see them at all is a tribute to you. If I’m honest I wouldn’t be able to go to that meet up. I’d have to find an excuse to miss it and try to catch up with people in smaller settings. I hope you can find a way forward with it that works.
Hi Purple and Yurtle,
I was always more of a lurker than contributor on those threads but have been around mumsnet for years since the early days of TTC and not drinking wine after ovulation in case I was pregnant. Ha fucking ha.
Anyway it's just a hello and a good luck to Purple re the meet up.
I find those things so hard, have drifted away from some friends because of it.
I was never on uber barrens but read from the sidelines. Definitely feel uber barren though!
I was never on uber barrens as it was before my time, but I read the full thread when it resurfaced this summer and thought the women on there seemed incredible - so smart and funny and obviously having a realt tough time but in a very British way. In contrast I’ve recently started looking at the Pregnancy board which appears to be populated by a bunch of absolute dim wits hope there were some happy endings
I was on them all (four paws)
Think of you all often.
Long story short discharged from everywhere 2017 and went on donor list.
Had DD November before reaching list. Nobody knows why.
I was very unwell after that. The "baby after 15 years of infertility and miscarriages" chapter nearly broke me. I was absolutely convinced something was going to happen to her, nearly drive myself mad.
And there was nobody who understood that.
Anyway, just wanted to say hi, I hope that's ok. You will all always be in my thoughts.
I would also add it hasn't got easier mentally for me. A friend got married August and announced pregnancy bang on 12 weeks on Facebook last week. I felt quite sick and unwell for ages. Angry, jealous, bitter. Pregnancy will never ever be a happy thing for me.
I’ve been on all the uber barren threads initially as a lurker and then as a poster. I’m still around lurking. I don’t think it’s right for me to post here anymore, but I’m rooting for you all from the sidelines.
I agree with @moobar (4 paws), emotionally it hasn’t left me. I still get the same jealous, angry and bitter feelings when I hear pregnancy announcements and then a massive feeling of guilt because I know I shouldn’t feel like that.
@peachesforfree you think the pregnancy board is bad, have you ever looked at the conception boards?? They’re on a whole other level. I have no idea what possessed me to look at them though, I think maybe to see what life might be like if conception didn’t require a whole team, a cupboard full of drugs and a lab.
I think I do still get it, but I don’t want to piss all over your thread (figuratively speaking) andI really hope no one minds me posting this.
I lurked on the thread for a while and although I've been at this for a VERY long time I still find it comforting that some of you have graduated and wish you all the best