Laparoscopy blues

[RoxyP]

Hi everyone not sure why I have ended up on mums net but I suppose I wanted to chat to people who can relate? Pretty fed up and low today I am surrounded by super fertile friends and family and I suppose I just feel a bit lost. I have recently just sent flowers to my best friend for her baby shower as I can’t fly(Low blow) and a very sore tummy from lap holes.
After multiple scans, bloods and tests I have just had a laparoscopy and dye test to be told I don’t have blocked tubes, I don’t have displaced ovaries, I don’t have endometriosis, just the odd fibroid that isn’t effecting my fertility. I should be happy but instead I feel sad that my body just isn’t working and there’s no reason. Not sure where I go from here, if anybody has had a similar situation I would love to hear!? Iv got another few weeks to wait until I see my specialist so anything to keep me away from google! TIA xx

[Maybenextmonth]

Hi @RoxyP, I'm not in the same situation anymore but for so long I was. I had a diagnosis in Feb but up until then I felt as lost as you sound. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to be told everything is fine when you feel you should finally have answers. And I totally understand the feeling of your body letting you down. I don't really have any advice as I felt the same as you. Just hang in there. It's so much easier said than done, but try not to stress too much. I hope you get some answers, or a positive, soon.

[RoxyP]

Thank you @Maybenextmonth it feels better knowing other people were/are in the same boat xx

[kikisparks]

@roxyp I had a lap in January, I do have endo but they say that shouldn’t be affecting things so like you I’m still in the unexplained infertility category after 2.5 years TTC :(

I’m only seeing the specialist in a week, it took ages between my lap and the appointment, and I’m hoping I’ll be put onto the ivf waiting list which I last heard was 6 months. The good thing is that people with unexplained infertility have a comparatively high success rate at ivf than many with known reasons for their infertility.

How many years TTC are you? Being surrounded by fertile people sucks, I’m going to a 1st birthday next month, my friend started TTC months after I did and her son will be one, my other friend will be there heavily pregnant or with her brand new 2nd baby. I have broken down quite a few times over this, it is just relentless emotional pain month after month.

We will get there though

[RoxyP]

@kikisparks That’s good news re success rates with unexplained, im so scared about getting my hopes up, not sure what my plan of action will be but I’m guessing IVF. TTC for 2 years, nearly all my friends have had babies or pregnant in this time. Hats off to you going to a 1st bday! I don’t feel that brave atm. Good luck with your journey, hopefully 6months with fly by

[kikisparks]

Thanks @RoxyP hope you’re next appointment goes well and that you recover well from your lap!

[Mothermason]

Feeling very similar. Had laparotomy to remove borderline ovarian tumour 3 weeks ago (open stomach) it was aggressive and had spread a lot.
Have been told it would be best to have full hysterectomy ASAP. Have one DS. Desperately want more children. Walked out of hospital and saw 2 heavily pregnant women smoking and I cried and cried. It’s so unfair. I’ve also had the test you had today, I also have blocked tubes. My DS was via IVF which really isn’t too awful if that’s the route you go down x

[RoxyP]

@Mothermason can you get a second opinion re the hysterectomy or is it a must? It's sounds like you have been through hell, it never gets easier seeing pregnant people and the smoking that's just horrible, I don't think I could have kept my mouth shut

[Mothermason]

@RoxyP I am going to get a second opinion. I have started a thread on here to see if anyone has had any similar experiences. Horrible seeing pregnant people who don’t look like they deserve it : (