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Today is transfer day and I’m on my own

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GemmeFatale · 20/09/2018 11:11

Just a whinge really.

After our first fresh round failed earlier this year it’s transfer day for one of our two Frosties. It’s been a rough pre cycle and DH has been away on business for most of it.

He’s just called to tell me he’s missed his connection and won’t be here for it.

We always knew this was a possibility (it was a tight connection) but I’m so sad.

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sanssherif · 20/09/2018 11:13

Hiya, I don't know what transfer is but it sounds important.
I hope it all goes well and you get what you want. Your husband being there or not will not affect the outcome. Let him look after you when you get home and very best of luck for today. I am sorry it failed earlier in the year Here's hoping for success and hope someone who knows more about IVF comes along soon xx

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DianaBlythe · 20/09/2018 11:14

Oh no, it’s a rubbish situation to be in and even more rubbish not to have a handhold.
Will he be home later? How are you getting to and from the centre? I hope it goes as smoothly as possible today Flowers.

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GemmeFatale · 20/09/2018 12:05

He’ll hopefully get home tonight and at that point will have been travelling over 24 hours. Normally I would make sure to have dinner ready for him and a couple of beers in the fridge but he might have to make do with a takeaway tonight.

I’ll be driving myself there and back. The nurse has ok’d it. Luckily it’s not too far and worst case I’ll leave the car, pay the 24 hour parking fee and beg a friend for a lift home.

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Botanica · 20/09/2018 13:02

That's such a shame and I'd be disappointed too, but as someone said before it won't affect the outcome.

Don't drive if you don't feel up to it and certainly don't do any running round getting things nice for him to come home to later. Put your feet up, relax and enjoy resting together over the coming day or two.

Enjoy it and let yourself off the hook in terms of being on top of things and organised. Washing, luggage, tidying etc can wait a while.

Cherish being back together, all three of you!!! Best of luck x

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DianaBlythe · 20/09/2018 15:50

Hope it went ok, been thinking of you xx

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GemmeFatale · 20/09/2018 16:22

Thank you. Just got to cross everything now. Hate the waiting bit.

He's managed to get a standby flight so it could be worse. At least he will get home without having to do miultiple trains.

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JeNeBaguetteRien · 20/09/2018 23:33

Hope your DH is with you soon.

You've done all you can to make this work, good luck with your cycle.

It's an emotional time, I remember feeling very tired even though there was no physical reason to.

💐

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notapizzaeater · 20/09/2018 23:36

Hand hold here, my DH was actually in another hospital for transfer.

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