Miscarriages and ectopic - SO already has kids

[Onedayhj]

I’ve been struggling a lot recently following a miscarriage at 13 weeks and then a subsequent ectopic resulting in the removal of my right tube. As much as I love the support from my SO it’s difficult because he has children from a previous relationship. Don’t get me wrong, they are a huge part of my life and I couldnt imagine a day without them. But it still feels like a kick in the stomach for every time I hear the word ‘daddy’. Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal? I just feel so overwhelmingly alone, despite knowing I have his full support.

[motherofdogscatschickens]

Hi oneday
I'm really sorry about your miscarriage, I know how terrible it feels. I had one over 15 years ago and I still think about it from time to time.

This journey is tough when OH has kids. Mine has 2 teenagers, and after 6 years of trying we found out the issue lies with his sperm. I know he feels guilty, but that's very different to feeling an"need" to have children.

I think it's also hard when it's your body and not there's. I'm not sure he will ever understand what you have been through, and your right when he has a child it won't mean quite so much- but that doesn't mean he doesn't care and doesn't want a baby.