Please tell me how you felt after you found out your transfer had failed

Fairylightsandwine · 2017-11-07 19:52:33

I have written a similar thread in chat but thought I would post here too for people who can give me their own experiences. Situation is I'm booked in for egg transfer on Friday. For various reasons it's at Guys in London (250 miles away) so lots of travelling. Anyway, it's my best friends hen do this weekend. The full shebang. A hen house, swimming pool, cocktails, party games, escape rooms etc. Initially, I didn't even want to go as it fills me with quite a lot of anxiety and I wouldn't want it to impact on my chances. However, after re evaluating, I think it's important I make the effort and go. However, the wedding, in a couple of weeks falls the day after we can officially test. I am a bridesmaid. I feel like if it's failed, going to a wedding the day after and being on bridesmaid duty would be the very last thing I'd want to do I thought I could probably put on a brave face and go as a guest, just not sure I could handle being a bridesmaid in those circumstances as my only similar experience is previous miscarriages where I felt dreadful. I spoke to my BF and explained all of this but she felt if I could go as a guest I could be a bridesmaid. She was very sympathetic but I'm not sure she understands just how dreadful is be feeling. She has basically said she will wait to hear from me the day before and if it's a success then great, if it's failed then I can decide based on how I feel. I already feel so stressed about it, not wanting to have it fail and then have to call her and feel forced into a decision I don't want to make. I just want to be relieved of bridesmaid duties altogether and just hopefully go as a guest and then it takes the pressure off. To those who've had failed FET could you have put on a brave face?

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