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WWYD? One last go or give up?

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Prosandconsandjustnotready Mon 13-Feb-17 22:17:01

Pretty sure the 'damage' has already been done as approx 50k doesn't he drain with nothing to show for it sad
Multiple rounds (IVF and FET)
Secondary infertility

We 'could' do just 1 more. I want to. Sometimes. Then I think maybe I should give up ?
TBH what's another 5k when we've spent a fortune already. On the other hand how do you know when to stop?
I don't feel ready. DH is just tired of it all. Swinging between be happy with what we have and move on but then there's nothing to show for years of spending and trying so do I give it one last shot? We are in debt anyway so not sure another cycle will make any difference.


outputgap Tue 14-Feb-17 01:53:08

Change clinic and regime for one last go? Is egg donation a possibility for you?

LilQueenie Tue 14-Feb-17 02:08:25

do it. its still a chance and maybe the one you have been waiting for.

zzzzz Tue 14-Feb-17 02:10:59

I'd go somewhere (Spain?Italy?) where they let you put more embryos back and it's cheaper.

MrsEricBana Tue 14-Feb-17 02:14:05

I agree with the others, one last go, possibly with change of approach. My sil had one last go, we totally sympathised but privately felt it was time to let it go, she is now many weeks pregnant with twins! Good luck and I really hope it works for you, but if it doesn't I think you will be pleased, looking back, that you did, whatever the outcome.

Prosandconsandjustnotready Tue 14-Feb-17 06:45:06

I'm too old for an egg donation programme or would have done that.
Feels like when we've spent so much what's one more cycle.....

zzzzz Tue 14-Feb-17 14:35:34

You could go overseas and have donated eggs.

outputgap Tue 14-Feb-17 15:17:19

Yeah, that's what I meant. My plan was 3 or 4 'easy' cycles, then ARGC. I hadn't decided, but I know others did, whether to leave the last bit of cash for a trip abroad for donated eggs.

I think a last, chuck everything at it, immunes, etc is a good idea if you have the money. But don't just do another cycle where you are without thinking about it hard.

Welshmamma Fri 24-Feb-17 09:49:42

Go abroad x Not sure how old you are but they seem to treat ladies older than they do here in UK xx

Blondeshavemorefun Fri 24-Feb-17 16:46:17

I would try one more but diff clinic and def abroad as cheaper and imo technology and freezing better then my uk clinic

How many failed have you had

What had clinic said

Is is the same clinic each time

How old are you. Assume over 35 as you say too old for egg donation. I assume you mean egg sharing

Would you try wth donated eggs?

Kannet Fri 24-Feb-17 16:48:30

I spent about the same, I had decided to give up. Why throw good money after bad I thought. A friend talked to me about embryo donation in Spain. It was fantastic, my baby is now 18. I this old. Xx

2014newme Fri 24-Feb-17 16:56:51

Hi I recommend Dr ndukwe at zita West, previously care. Specialises in women who have more than 3 failed cycles.
Worked for me.

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