A little background: After ttc for far too long (and assuming we were just unlucky) we had the usual tests done and whilst I'm (fortunate to be) a textbook fertile person (can set my watch by my cycles), my husband has a very low sperm count, and the few that are there are not going to the Olympics for their form and speed... So we were eligible for IVF/ ICSI on the NHS.
However we were due to be moving house/city/jobs in the near future so we decided to wait on starting it for a while, so we could stick with one clinic etc. Fast forward and before we began the IVF process, I, somewhat incredibly, got pregnant.
Now is the dilemma. We would love to have a second baby, but we know the reality of our situation and my husband's sperm count etc. However he is very much "well it happened once so it'll happen again", whereas I'm far more conscious of how unlikely it is (less than 1% chance is what one specialist said) (though would love it if it did happen again!), and my age (not super old, but I would probably give myself another 3-4 years before I'd start feeling I was at my personal upper limit).
We'd love another 2 (or even three!) in a dream world, and I feel like embracing IVF increases our chances within that time frame.
Obviously I'm happy to try naturally for a while to see what happens, but I remember all too clearly how heartbreaking I find every failed month. If I knew that the hope of IVF (although also not a guarantee, I do accept that) was X number of months away, I'd feel more hopeful overall.
Does that make sense?!
So how many months would you say is a sensible amount of time to ttc naturally in this situation? I really don't want to keep trying for another 3 years or so, and then be "too old" to face the IVF process...
What can I pitch to my husband, as a realistic compromise? He's not totally anti IVF, he's just overly optimistic ;)
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When to start IVF...??
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TheLongRains · 10/11/2016 20:04
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