Feeling lost

[sunshineonasunnyday]

As the title says, I'm feeling lost. I don't even know what to write. Been down the last few days and not really wanting to talk to anyone.

A bit of background. I'm 37 and have one child, she's nearly 8 years old, and have been trying for a second for 4 years. After a year of no luck I went to my GP. During these 3 years I have had bloods done on day 3 and 21 at least 3 times and pelvic scans. GP had been adamant that my results are normal and there is nothing wrong or concerning, and I should keep on trying. Husband also had semen analysis which came back normal.

This week we went for a private consultation and I took a copy of blood results from my GP. I told the consultant what I had been telling my GP for 3 years about my cycle which had changed, from 28 days to 21 days, and from 7 days bleed to 4 over the past few years, the night sweats and hot flushes etc. Anyway, she said my blood results were not normal at all, FSH was high.

This morning I got a copy of the letter the consultant has sent my GP stating FSH levels are significantly high at 18. Seeing it in black and white that this is an indication of low egg reserve, when my GP has been saying all was normal, has just made me so upset, emotional and angry.

I could have got help sooner! I just don't know how to feel or even what this means for me.

I have had the AMH test and waiting for results, and FSH will be repeated and will be having a follicur count scan later this month.

If anyone has any advice for me, or is / has gone through similar, I would love to hear from you.

Thank you.

[Nospringflower]

Sorry, haven't been through anything like this but it sounds like your GP has been really negligent. I know it doesn't help but I would definitely be complaining about the treatment you have had. I hope it is not too late and you can now get some help.

[sunshineonasunnyday]

Thank you Nospringflower.

[Mrsbadger77]

I've said it before and I'll say it again the vast majority of GPs know jack shit about fertility. I was told that as long as I was having periods I had nothing to worry about.

[sunshineonasunnyday]

Mrsbadger77 - I know that now. I just hope it's not too late for me.

[Mrsbadger77]

I'm the same age as you and I think you still stand a good chance but I would really be feeling angry at Dr for making such a huge error. I know anger is not a helpful emotion but it was avoidable. I'm sure I've heard of things you can do to lower your FSH might b wheatgrass juice

[sunshineonasunnyday]

Thank you Mrsbadger77. You're right, being angry is not helpful.

I have a letter from the consultant to hand deliver to the GP, so I have decided to call the GP tomorrow for an appointment. At the appointment I will ask him to go through my bloods again, ask him what the ranges they look at, and clarify my results with me. Once he has said his bit I will hand him the consultants letter and say 'is it still normal?'

I just want an explanation from him face to face before I put in the written complaint (although I know nothing will come out of it). I just want answers.

What really makes me angry is that my GP made me feel like it was all in my head. He even said to me that if I went private I would be throwing my money away because there was nothing wrong with me, and I just needed to continue to have regular sex. He also advised not to use ovulation sticks as they put stress on the ovum .

[Chattycat78]

Hi- I had a similar thing happen to me in late 2013. My fsh came back as 12 and Luckily I knew it wasn't right. The gp told me it was fine! However i insisted on getting referred but only because I said we had been trying for a year when we hadn't. I think fertility tests are quite specialist and gps don't know how to interpret them unfortunately. However just because you have high fsh doesn't mean u can't get pregnant. It just means you have a low egg count- you only need one egg. I do agree that you should complain though.

[sunshineonasunnyday]

I have an appointment with the GP on Wednesday and I will be asking him to pull up all my test results and go through them with me. Let's see what he has to say!

Thanks for your responses.