My DH and I are struggling with secondary infertility - we have been ttc number 2 for exactly 22 months now, my DD is 3.4. Nearly two years we have been giving it our all. We're finally in the system and I have an HSG booked in a few weeks time thankfully. I've found it so painful seeing so many people around me getting pregnant with their second children, and in some cases third.
Another friend just told me she was pregnant via a facebook message but was SO blase about it. And then made the usual comments about it happening because she was relaxed and not stressed and this would work for me too. In fact she suggested that 'maybe if I quit my job it'll happen for me.
I'm so so so fed up with this that I want to scream! She has no idea what we are going through or how painful it is. People are constantly telling me that if I just relax it will happen. Surely don't they think that after two years I have done everything possible to give ourselves the best chance?
My moods swing crazily between being angry and being so utterly sad and devastated - I never thought I'd want to withdraw from people as I'm very sociable with lots of friends, but I'm not coping very well anymore and I almost don't want to be around people for fear of more pregancy news.
Sorry for the long post, I don't often write threads but hoping some of you might have some words of wisdom for how to get through this.
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Can't take the 'if you'd just relax it will happen' comments anymore - holding back the tears :-(
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CakeInMyFace · 11/11/2014 08:34
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