Article in paper today by bloody annoying mother

[kelway]

started to read an aritcle in paper today (DM), one of those mumsy articles, a women (middle class type) going on in the first paragraph about 'why are mothers blamed for everything' however i found i could not read much of it after her going into detail about how she had spent AGES making sure she had bought the best/hard to find perfect gifts for her children only to be rewarded on christmas day but her 7 year old dd freaking out having the most terrible tantrum moaning about how she (the mother) had forgotten to buy her a paperchase clip folder (despite her mother having bought what sounded to me to be a fantastic array of gifts) and that is was now the worst christmas and that she would never forgive her. the women went into detail of the sort of things that came out of her darling childs gob but instead of mentioning anything about how rude her dd was etc all she could say was something about feeling awful that she had forgotten the clip board and how she worried her dd would never forgive her, something about her (the mother) having to hide behind her sofa in shame....HELLO! i'm sorry but mothers like this drive me to distraction. Sounds to me like she has an over endulged procious brat who has never/rarely been told 'no'. due to the nature of what i do for a living (trader) which is in a very midddle class area which at the w/e is over run with their offsping we (other traders) watch in fascination as an abundance of these 'young trendy mothers and fathers' allow their kids to be so bloody rude and ill mannered, i bet this women's kid is a real bundle of joy. Needless to say i didn't read the rest of the article as i thought the women needed a good slap/shake. did anyone else read this?

[Hopelesslydisorganised]

I read this too and like you was shocked. I got to the end where she DID acknowledge her DD was a spoilt brat and needed telling so. Not sure if she actually DID do this as she didn't say so.

[clam]

Logged onto MN just now, purely to see if anyone else had read this and was as incensed as I am.

Her DD needs a good slap, if you ask me. Can't believe the mother apologised for not getting it.
But it's Tanith Carey. We've had rants on here before about her bloody stupid articles.
Have a vague idea she might be an MNer, but I could be making that up so don't quote me!

[mamatomany]

I'd have taken every present back off the little bugger, that would have given the DD something to never forgive

[kelway]

so this women is a regular writer for the DM then? what other joys has she written? were they equally irritating?

[talkingnonsense]

Hi :0 1 agree the dd is a real spoilt brat and needs a good shake and I am 11

[UnquietDad]

I got as far as "Paperchase" before I twigged the issue was not "being blamed for everything" but rather the more common issue of "having a spoilt little brat."

[clam]

Google her, kelway.

Or was it that she lifted quotes from here for some article she wrote and got rumbled??

Come on, help me out here, someone?

[ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo]

can you link to it?

[Pixel]

I saw this as well. Not only would I have been livid at the ungrateful little brat rather than apologetic, I would have expected dh to be a bit more than 'bemused' or whatever term she used. If our children behaved like that he would be telling them not to be rude to their mother!

And what's this about lists anyway? Do people really tell their children they can make a list and expect to get every item on it?

Have searched out the offending article if anyone wants to raise their blood pressure is interested.

[Shallishanti]

maybe it was meant as a joke?

[ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo]

why does she get all the blame?

well because when the tantrum ensued she hid behind teh fucking christmas tree and allowed it to happen instead of cutting the girl short at th efirst sign of a whinge.

anyway, i don't believe it happened at all.

[kelway]

i've just re read the article, the whole thing this time. i think i get where she is coming from ie my dd spends alot more time with me than dh, time she spends with dh is mostly hang out time and when it comes to telling offs, more often than not it comes from me and yes, i hate telling her off and feel bad after because you worry she may hate me (not literally, you know the vibe) but the writers example about not buying her dd everything on the list and feeling awful that she had left off what appeared to have been an important thing for her 8 year old made me want to vomit, get a life ffs

[Chil1234]

I think there is a serious problem with journalism at the moment that every other column or article is written by or about some 'bloody annoying woman/man' that thinks we're in the slightest bit interested in their kids, divorce, brush with depression, alternative lifestyle, yadda, yadda, yadda.... Used to be women's pages were all about knitting, recipes and the occasional stern tip on what to do if you suspected next door wasn't scrubbing her front step properly. All this enforced, 'I'm not a yummy-enough-mummy or faddy-enough-daddy' navel gazing is sick-making. Bleeeuuuurgggh.

[clam]

Found it!!
this thread which links to this subsequent article by Ms Carey. daily mail article

[clam]

By the way, that is my very first attempt at doing links!

[lalalonglegs]

In case anyone hasn't already mentioned it, Tanith Carey wrote a book on parenting called "How To Be an Amazing Mum When You Just Don't Have the Time"...

[kelway]

if she 'doesn't have the time' then that might explain why she had bought so many gifts for her dd, to try and make up for it....(in her mind), from her kids delightful response, sounds to me like the brat has had far too many gifts

[clam]

Buy your daughter everything on her Christmas list, I guess. AND DON'T MISS ANYTHING OFF!!

[Cheggerspartypopper]

I'm trying to imagine what it must be like making a living by having to come up with ideas for articles to sell to the dm.

What a shit job.

[Tanith]

Have a vague idea she might be an MNer, but I could be making that up so don't quote me!

I do so hope you haven't got my id confused with this woman
Just to reassure you, my RL name is not Tanith, I don't read the DM and I've never heard of Tanith Carey. From what you say on this thread, I think I'm rather glad!

[darleneconnor]

I was also shocked at her spoilt brat of a DD.
Do parents actually allow their DCs to speak to them like that?

DS said he wanted some stupid piece of electronic gadgetry for Christmas. I told him even if we won the lottery I wouldn't be buying it out of principle.

Come Christmas day, he didn't get it and never noticed said a word.

I can see the writer's oint though about feeling aggreived that it was her the DD was blaming and not her Dad.

[clam]

Tanith no I know it's not you! See my link above. She posted as some derivation of her daughter's name.

[dotnet]

I've only just skimmed the article - I started reading bits of the thread first, and oh it did make me laugh. All those irate MNers, slapping hands at the ready and smoke coming from their nostrils...

I THINK the little girl was just being unreasonable in the way very small girls sometimes (often) are. My dd (now at university) went through a phase of protesting 'You've ruined my life!' when some small but objectionable thing was asked of her. That would have been when she was six or seven I think. And when she was even younger than that, she used to do a strange twisting movement with her upper body, a bit like a waist-whittling exercise, elbows at her sides going through two thirds of a circle, to demonstrate her fury.

When I was a child, I remember stamping my feet when I was angry, so maybe she got it from me!
Some kids are civilised by nature, others need to learn to become civilised, and that takes time.

I think the little girl will turn out perfectly OK in the end!

[Pixel]

Maybe she will, but it's unlikely if her mother cowers in terror rather than pointing out the error of her ways. She isn't going to 'learn to be civilised' if her bratty behaviour results in apologies and grovelling!