I didn't know whether or not to put this in relationships. Basically DH and I really don't enjoy housework. Our place is not filthy and it's in good nick but there are constantly piles of things that need putting away. Mail...old receipts that need keeping...trays of craft stuff we are half-doing with ds...DIY bits and bobs.
We've been here for 2 years and we don't have a place for the iron. That sort of sums things up.
Basically I've said "Look we can't live like this, we need to have a place for everything we have containers and cupboards but no organisation, so let's make a list of everything that needs a permanent home, sort it out, and bob's your uncle." DH nods in agreement and then WILL NOT do it - I know he won't, before I even open my mouth.
But (and this winds me up so badly) I say that and then do nothing. I would LOVE it if DH nodded and then brought it up again and we worked together on it. He has never been like that. It is kind of up to me. I HATE this role - it's like being a mother to him and it makes me cross, resentful, it makes him unattractive to me (I mean how can you have a 100% keen attraction-based relationship with someone whose clean t-shirts you have just gathered up from 4 different places in the house and put away? And don't say 'well don't do that then' because I didn't, but 6 weeks later I couldn't stand it any more).
Anyway, he's crap and I'm crap and I don't want to be a shrew. We've been together donkey's years and neither of us is going to miraculously become excessively houseproud. I am not going to nyip nyip nyip at him until he sees my way is the best - especially as I am just as bad at the actual doing. But is there any way I can get him to either come up with ideas to improve things or to go along with mine?
He has gone away for a week and I have a bit of space to look around and it's soul-destroying.
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Prunerz · 13/10/2009 07:01
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