. I obviously home educate my 2 boys aged 7 & 4 (and am 34 weeks pregnant).
Unfortunately there is stress between dh & I. He says he doesn't like ds1's attitude or behaviour, says he has no respect for anything (he's a good kid, but pushing boundaries a little, like a NORMAL 7 year old and yes, he does break alot of things, but so did I as a kid.) and he completely doesn't want him to be home schooled, says he never agreed to it and that I only do it to make my life easier. He seems to think I am too lazy to do the school run, use it as an excuse to not work ect. He also thinks that by sending ds1 to school that they will rid him of behaviour that dh finds annoying. I told dh that he finds ds1 (and ds2 to some extent) annoying because he barely knows them, is always working, is basically a weekend dad and admitted that he would rather be at work that at home because the kids drive him mad (I felt like this about ds1 to some extent, which is why I bit the bullet and decided something had to be done before our relationship was beyond repair, this is part of the reason I homeschooled him, and our relationship is much, much better than it was, not perfect, but much better!)
I do admit that we do not mix with others very much, mainly because we are stuck with no car and the times when after school things are usually on, dh is either not home or still too busy to take them, there is always an excuse. Plus, ds's have never really shown an interest in joining clubs or groups yet (ds1 is actually waaay better with very small groups of children). As a family we will be getting a second car in Feb and I am really looking forward to being able to get out with the kids and meeting likeminded people.
So, I now feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. I basically see the kids as mine, I know them better than anyone, spend all my time with them ect and dh hardly sees them and then has no patience with them and obviously they retaliate, hence the lack of respect for him, he shows them none. I feel torn between my husband, who I do love, although feel he is unfair on the kids and my kids, who I love to death and feel the need to protect them from thier own father.
Anyone else been in this kind of situation and things worked out or at least settled down??
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Heartmum2Jamie · 20/09/2008 14:05
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