@Saracen
Local home ed groups are a good place to start. Whenever it's possible to have face-to-face chats, you can talk to lots of people at some length about what it looks like for them and get all your questions answered. Home education looks different for every family. There's no "right way" to do it. So be sure to talk to various people - with luck you will soon find some people whose views resonate with you, so you think, "Yes, I could imagine doing it in a similar way. I would be comfortable with that. That sounds like it would be fun and would suit my children's personalities and mine."
It's nice to talk to people with similar-aged children to see what they are doing now, and because their kids are potential friends for your kids. It's also useful to talk to people whose children are older than yours to see how it turned out for them.
A great many home educators are heavily involved in local HE activities and have HE friends, so it is good to know what is on offer locally. Is there a strong HE community? Are there many people who are similar to you and your children? Are there many social and educational activities to join in with which are within your budget? Will they be accessible to you? (Especially relevant if you don't drive.)
Good luck!
Saracen is right about there being no single way to Home Ed, and that it's useful to talk to people who are actually doing it, to see what seems as though it might suit you.
I would add a couple of things, just from my own experience. Mine, now 13 and 12, have never attended school and are doing pretty well, but there has been - as I think is quite normal - a fair bit of angst on the way, mainly around hotspots when it may be an 'obvious' time to reassess educational choices, e.g. starting secondary school age, beginning of KS4, etc.
Firstly, there often initially seems to be a ‘dominant’ approach in Home Ed groups you encounter online or in person. This approach may well be your bag, in which case you’ll hopefully find your feet quickly. But if it’s not, then it can feel as though there’s a pressure to adopt a way of home educating that may not work either for your children or for you and your values. This is probably a reflection on your newness to the community rather than any domineering attitudes on their part, as it can feel important to conform when you’re at a stage when the support of a network is really vital, particularly as these people are the ‘experts’ (or at least experienced in a way that you are emphatically not) .
So as Saracen says, when you’re starting out, aim to seek out a range of these groups, and see which you’re most aligned with at this stage, don’t be disheartened if the biggest local voices don’t chime with how you think you might approach things – there will likely be plenty of other Home Educators around who are just a bit quieter and less prominent at first.
I’m in London, where the Home Ed community is huge (so this may be different in other regions) and it’s worth noting that while there is a fair bit of mixing of different styles of Home Educating families in certain popular organised sessions such as sports groups and museum outings and so forth, people choose HE for a range of reasons, and do tend to hang out with their ‘tribe’ for socialising and informal learning sessions (and tend to sign up for the same courses and trips as their friends). Basically, there is the wider Home Ed community, but within that are a number of smaller communities who share a similar ethos and approach.
While I’m on the subject of different motivations and different approaches, it’s probably worth thinking in advance about into which of these you’re likely to gravitate towards and which you’ll run a mile from.
In broad brushstrokes *, the main groups are (and I mean this affectionately and a little tongue-in-cheek):
- The parents who are religious and Home Educate either to centralise their faith in their children’s education; or sometimes because they object to the secular education available; or their choice of schools are either Ofsted rated ‘Good’ ones which are of a faith not their own, or secular ones which are Ofsted rated ’Requires Improvement’, neither of which appeal.).
- The hippyish parents who object to what they term the “sausage factory” of schools, and tend to favour an unstructured approach, usually with a heavy emphasis on creativity and the natural world.
- The parents of children with SEN who feel they have little choice but to Home Ed, as their kids just aren’t supported by the school system. They mostly use resources and activities tailored to the specific needs of their children.
- The parents of children who have really struggled at school with bullying or other issues. They often mirror the National Curriculum and a ‘school at home’ approach, but sometimes move more towards ‘unschooling’.
- The political anti-establishment parents who are deeply suspicious of what they see as the authoritarian nature of state education. They can go either way - towards bushcraft and willow weaving or else full on Latin conjunctions before breakfast.
- The ‘fell into it’ parents, who ended up Home Educating because of house moves, waiting for a school place to come up, etc. They are likely to mirror the National Curriculum and a ‘school at home’ approach at least at first, but then often drift towards another tribe.
- The ‘Tiger Parents’ who are tightly focused on academic achievement, and tend to use a lot of classes, textbooks and online resources following a very timetabled approach that mirrors the National Curriculum, often sitting exams and other qualifications at quite early ages.
I was going to preface the above with ,“no judgement, everyone does things differently in the way that works for their kids, which is the beauty of Home Ed” and this is true. But it’s probably also a bit disingenuous as of course there’s judgement there, that’s human nature. I think that the way
I do is HE is best, obviously, as otherwise I wouldn’t be doing it in the way that I do it.
. I think everyone just keeps their judgements to themselves for the most part though, which means that the wider community can rub along together just fine.
All of that said, however, remember that your Home Education style will evolve as you get more experienced and confident, and as your children develop and their needs possibly change. There’s many a home educator who started out with a timetable and a million textbooks that later softened into something much more fluid. Likewise, there’s plenty who threw themselves into barefoot-in-the-forest approach at the outset, but later moved towards a more structured approach. This is both normal and fine, and I’d say a positive thing. It’s better to be flexible, reflective and responsive to what is working for the children and for you, than to stick grimly to an ideology that may no longer be serving you well.
Good luck on your Home Ed journey!
* Of course, in reality, huge swathes of Home Educators mix and match aspects of all of these, depending on a range of factors.