Hi I have been considering home education for a couple of years for various reasons. My oldest is 10, he has high functioning autism, pda profile, high anxiety and will likely be diagnosed adhd at his next appointment, he is struggling with the school system.
He previously had a 1-1 TA in the afternoons and art therapy, Lego therapy which made school do-able for him. We moved areas last year and he had to move schools, as he didn't have an EHCP the new school didn't put the support in from the start despite the old school sending all their Ed psych reports etc over and me having numerous meetings with Senco and senior leadership team. His behaviour has deteriorated massively and his anxiety has become unmanageable- he's been running away and self harming so CAMHS are now involved. He is not coping at school, it's not the work as he's very bright, it's the environment, the structure, the expectations and demands, the lack of flexibility for his needs etc.
He has been at home the last 4 weeks before Easter, he had 2 fixed term exclusions which we are appealing as they'd have been avoided if school had appropriate support in place for him and then I said I wasn't sending him back at present due to his own mental health surrounding school for which he's seen gp twice and CAMHS crisis team.
School have continued to provide some work for him which we have been doing at home, he has been working well (in general!) and completing work of a better quality and quantity than he had been at school! I suspect this is down to the environment at home, I've long thought home Ed would suit him and husband now sees how he is improving and agreed. However..... we also have a 7 year old and 18 month old, the 7yo is also an anxious child who doesn't particularly enjoy the new school school, he has friends and is quite bright but of course would rather be at home like his brother currently is! I genuinely don't think they'd both get on with work if they were both at home tho I feel they'd argue or muck about so I don't think it's an option to have both home educated. Also I feel my 18 month old is missing out now on a lot of the activities we used to do together as older children are not allowed at the toddler groups or the toddler swim sessions etc. She is missing out on the social aspect of being around others her own age and also missing out on a lot of the things we did at home together that I now can't do as I'm helping my oldest with his work - he needs supervision and support to remain on task so it's like a full time job on its own.
How do others make it work home educating a child with younger siblings too? Do you feel they miss out or am I being silly? We haven't found any local home Ed groups as not on Facebook etc but my oldest goes trampolining or swimming once a week and football twice a week and sees local friends after school so I'm not worried on him missing out just the others!!
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Toddler missing out due to home Ed?
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Jaz32 · 16/04/2019 08:32
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