And by helpful, I really mean 'helpful'...
I have posted on here before. Our situation is that we are HE our DS (5yrs). He has autism and should have started his (deferred) P1 in August (Scotland). He attended mainstream nursery for 2 years.
I completely buy into HE and all the benefits associated with it, however our families (my parents and inlaws) don't really get it. They want us to hire some kind of tutor, and both have offered to pay for it. They feel he needs 'structure' and to be 'moving forward' with his education. He needs to start learning that in life, sometimes we have to do and learn things we don't want to. They can't understand that maybe a child would want to learn to read, for example, unless they were formally taught. They think that left to their own devices, kids would just sit around watching cartoons, and being completely illiterate. He needs to be round other children, learning social skills.
I've tried explaining that their approach wouldn't work for DS. I've tried explaining that he's far more likely to learn if he is interested, and things are child-led, and that he completely disengages in adult-led topics. Ive explained that we do have structure, that we do lots of things, go lots of places, have lots of opportunities for learning everyday. I've explained he is very difficult to motivate. I've told them his nursery struggled to get him to listen or pay attention if it wasn't on his terms. I've told them that in 2 years at nursery he made no friends; that without an adult to help scaffold conversation, he didn't know how to interact with his peers. They know all this, but can't get away from the idea that school is the best way to educate him. I wonder sometimes if they've actually met him!
Anyway, how do I deal with this? I do know they only have his best interests at heart, but boy, it gets tiring explaining our choices every time we see them. Do I just smile and nod, then come here and have a rant? Anyone else have any advice or experiences?
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Lookslikerain · 15/10/2015 04:35
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