My daughter has asked to be home schooled. she is 11 and first year secondary, she is deeply unhappy and has been bullied. The school sent her home today and she is begging to be home schooled. I haven't got a problem, I will do this, my husband (not her dad) is supportive of this, her dad (my ex husband) is not, we have joint custody but I would be the one educating her. she lives one week with me and one week with her dad, although I still go and get her up on a morning and take her to school etc. Has he got a right to contest this? I'd rather we came to an agreement for her sake but can't see it happening, any advice would be great.
It could be difficult if you have joint custody and he sees her so regularly. But early secondary is a much easier time to home ed than a few years later when exams have started. Could you perhaps broach the subject as getting things sorted now with temporary home ed before it gets much worse?
Well had the meeting, the ex is definietly against HE, mainly as he hasn't done his research. Anyway have decided that as this is what my daughter wants I can go ahead, she has also asked for the living arrangements to be changed so she will be with me more. we'll see what happens...
Hi, (have read your other thread as well as this one) my suggestion would be rather than allowing her education to be something that overnight changes her relationship with her dad, and starts WW2 in a who is right/responsible and potential tug of love way given that he seems to have 50% responsibility, you enrol her in an internet school, for the moment.
It will give everyone a breathing space, stop you feeling desperate (not good for anyone) about how to go about things, allow everyone to come to terms with not doing what is seen as normal, while continuing a structured curriculum with other children for the moment, in a safer environment.
Her dad probably wont like it either, but hell be hard pressed to do much about it other than refuse to let her log in at his, in which case hes disrupting her education. If he gets arsey hell find it much harder to make a deal out of it, and it seems to me that your daughter having to see less of him to sort out educational problems, and stop him and mum going at each other over it, isn't a good thing for her and is storing up many problems.
Its quite normal for children to enrol for short times and doesn't have the same problems as going to a standard school short term and moving on, and in cases where parents end up in court is easy to get court recognition as suitable education and prevent residency arguments because of educational differences claims. (Im not saying thats what would happen with him, just that you seem to feel hell go mad, and the response is shell see him less etc)
It would give you time to take stock, learn more about different ways of home ed, and give dad a chance to accept that whatever is happening, apparently his daughters education will in future be different and he needs to learn more about the subject.
You may find she flourishes (Interhigh is particularly good with bullied kids) and wants to stay doing that, or you may find you want to do things differently and go for that, but all ways round, you reduce the out of the blue high drama and impact on all relationships, potential for him to start legal action etc and can show you've thought through your DD's best interests.
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