Working with a toddler

[user1468361816]

I wanted do post this as I've been having some problems recently. So my daughter was still quiet young when I went back to work. I've never stopped feeling guilty about having to work but I feel like there isn't much I can do.

I don't want to be on benefits or to have my daughter grow up with having to rely on the government to pay her way through life. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with that it's just who I am I'm very work oriented. I enjoy my job there is great possibility of promotions and huge pay rises which will benefit us so much.

I couldn't see myself not working as I want my daughter to have a comfortable life where I can sleep easy knowing every bill is paid and there is always food there for us.

Am I wrong for wanting this? Am I being too self involved with this job or am I doing the right thing by my daughter making sure she has a better life. Or am I feeling guilty because I have a reason to be?

[jclm]

Could you say more? What exactly is the problem? Is your daughter struggling with the long day in childcare?

BTW all mums feel guilt! But we have to consider the wellbeing of the family as a whole, including ourselves, and our future career if we are going to have some time out of the labour market. X

[museumum]

I don't feel guilty for working. Do you do long hours? I work Monday to Thursday only 9-5 and no long commute. Ds spends Monday's with his granny.
This is the best balance for us. I don't really "need" to work but I enjoy it and I think ds gets the best of me when we're together. I wouldn't be nearly as much fun or patient if I was with him 7 days a week.
I intend to change my hours to mon-fri 9-2ish when he starts school. Something I'd never be able to get if I had left my job during the preschool years and tried to return.

[Daytona79]

Can you teach a happy medium and work part time..?? That way you still have your job and get to spend time with daughter.