Feeling stuck in a rut..

[puzzledleopard]

..trying to get back to work. I have been out of work for quite a while now 6 years+ with moving about the country due to circumstances I was in and then becoming a stay at home mum. I am settled now and have been looking for work for the best part of 8 months since September.

I am so fed up of rejection after rejection trying to find a suitable job to fit around our family life 9-5 Mon-Fri (which fits in with type of jobs I did before children). I have suggested applying for some jobs with unsociable hours just to get myself back into the workplace. Partner has shot me down as we will get no time together, he doesn't mind having DC at the weekend but I would prefer to avoid that if possible as he will need to see his DC's and my Dc is not welcome there (out of his control).

Partner messaged earlier "was just talking to the girl that got the job you went for". I felt sick and joked about him talking to the enemy, then he went on about her strange unusual but quite interesting degree and other interesting things she has done. I got a bit upset and asked him “what exactly does that have to do with the job she applied for?”and he said she might have other qualifications realising what I was implying . I just don't think he thought before he spoke about it...how it would make me feel! I obviously wasn't the best candidate and understand that but I just feel deflated and depressed to the point where I wish I wasn't in this position but I am and there is no escaping it.

I'm not feeling myself , I feel anxious it's eating away at confidence and belief in myself . I feel that when ever someone asks me if I'm getting anywhere with it, I'm taking it to heart as if they are having a dig at me when they probably just trying to be polite and start a conversation. I've had comments sounding me being out of work thrown at me from various places which I know to ignore but I'm feeling low and it's not helping. I know I should tell my partner how I feel but he's so stressed worrying about money that it won't help, we are just about surviving on one wage but me going back would make us a lot more comfortable.

Please if any one has any tips to keep me going or anyone else in a similar position or who/ knows someone that has been here and is in a better place?

[jclm]

I'm in this same position. Very difficult!!! I would recommend you have a chat with a careers advisor, and do some volunteering which will increase confidence x

[puzzledleopard]

HI thank you for your reply, I started this thread at a bad time as had a busy school holidays, I haven't been alone to be able to come back on.

It is mind numbing! I did consider volunteering as a new place opened around the corner from us needed volunteers.

I applied for a local job around the time I posted this, called got told they dont deal with it can I email them. It was past the intake date on the advert but the advert but it was still in the window so I chanced a sneaky email. In short I put that I knew it was passed the date but the advert was still up in the window have they managed to fill the position. Next morning the advert was gone and I've heard nothing since.

I sometimes wish the odd time there could be some acknowledgement or a reason why that could help me I dont mind constructive criticism. I think thats what gets me down the most!

[puzzledleopard]

I should have re-read that sorry!

[mumznet]

At the moment try and take whatever job you can
Volunteering helps
The main thing employers wants to know is your skills
Think about what skills do you have and how you can show that in interview....by giving examples

[JenniferYellowHat1980]

What kind of level of job are you applying for? As a recently ex teacher I've secured a post but it pays well under half what I was on before in the hope it will open doors at least in the form of training opportunities.