I went back to work full time at the beginning of December after having a year off with my PFB, and I literally feel like I am sinking.
My job is stressful, I am out of the house from 7am-6pm, and DS is asleep when I leave and awake for an hour when I get home, so I see him for a total of 5 hours during the week. His sleeping is totally messed up at the moment (largely due to being unsettled and having his mother stripped away from him I imagine), so he wakes multiple times a night. Consequently, I am knackered all the time.
My house is an absolute disgusting tip because I have neither the energy or time to keep it clean and tidy. My relationship with my son is suffering (I feel), because I spend so little time with him. My relationship with my DH is rubbish because he is also exhausted, as he does 75% of the childcare (due to him being a shiftworker and obviously daddy day care is free whereas nursery/childminder is totally unaffordable for us), then works a full time job around caring for DS. None of us are ever together at the same time. I do not have the option of working part time because we rely on my money, so I see no way out of this tunnel? I just have to learn to cope don't I? I am even beginning to resent our dog and cat who were previously huge members of the family, because they cause added work which I don't have time for.
How do you do it? I genuinely have no idea how people manage to work full time and do everything else? I am losing the plot. If social services could see the state of my house today they'd probably take my DS away, but I don't understand how to keep on top of it?
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Please tell me how you manage- I'm sinking.
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Doodledumdums · 26/01/2014 23:46
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