Hi. My daughter EJ is 7 1/2. We've known from very early on that she's very clever, well ahead of her peers. We have bought her up as best we know how. Her behaviour has been getting increasingly worse. Not to say that she's awful all of the time, but when she is "naughty" she's a force to be reckoned with!!! I've begun to doubt our method of dealing with this behaviour, as it seems to fuel her emotions. When she (or our son DJ) are being "naughty" they are told to stop. If they persist they go to a quiet place to think about what they've done and how they should behave. For DJ (4) this works. But EJ either "stews" and the punishment has little/no effect, or she cleverly worms her way into an argument-either way we need to change our discipline method, before we all go mad. Any suggestions? Also EJ can come across as bossy when playing with children of her own age. When she was younger it was easy to dismiss this behaviour to other parents as learning to share/ play together. But as EJ is getting older she does appear to others to be bossy. She's a lovely girl-caring, friendly and considerate. But when she plays the games have to be very structured. Everybody has to have a role. There have to be rules. She finds it very difficult when her friends don't comply. Luckily her brother is showing signs of being G and T, so can follow these rules for a little while. But often playing with her peers ends in tears :-( Should I be telling EJ to control her need to be in charge or encouraging her good leadership skills?
Crikey-I've gone on a bit!! Any input appreciated.
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emdanmum · 19/05/2010 11:41
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