6 week old - fed up of it all!

[bumbly]

never sleeps on back
cries if you put him down and dont hold him
always wants to be in my arms
rarely sleeps in day
sleeps intermittently in eve if lucky
vomits every few days
never seems happy - apart from a few mins a day
has reflux
has lots of wind

and health visitor says it is normal

well i think something is seriously wrong

anyone feel the same

actually fed up of the LO tonight - was hoping to have an eve out for some exercise for an hour but he threw up and there goes my first eve out since birth

want out

and am seriously worried re the LO

[slayerette]

I can sympathise - my ds was similar at that age- certainly with the not wanting to be put down and crying all the time. I remember crying in despair 'What do you WANT?' at him... We tried cranial osteopathy in the end and it worked really well; he was like a different baby after that, so it might be worth investigating. I wish you lots of luck and support - I do feel for you. When I read your post it was like I'd written it four years ago!

[LadyOfTheFlowers]

Apart from reflux, he sounds like just the same as Ds1, who then got colic.
I'm not saying yours will, but I'm saying, just to kick me when I was down, with severe PND, he got colic.

Ds2 was a very different story and still is, thank God - Very laid back.

Have you got checked out for PND?
Just a suggestion.

[Hassled]

Poor you - sorry you're feeling like this. It is a nightmare time for most parents - and I think most mothers have that "I want out" feeling at some stage. If it helps, my oldest is now 20 but those first couple of months with him are still fresh in my memory as the worst time of my life - just overwhelmingly awful. Keep reminding yourself that it won't always be like this (and it's true, it won't) and try to stay chilled and calm - babies are so good at picking up on moods and if you're stressed and twitchy, they will be too. I don't know if this is your first or not - my 1st and 3rd were nightmare babies and wonderful, cheerful, placid toddlers, whereas the 2nd and 4th were the opposite (calm, sleepy babies but little monsters at 2), so look forward to those toddler days . And your HV is right - wind, vomiting, not wanting to be put down - all very common.

[madmarchhare]

Small babies can be such a handful, considering the onle thing they really need is food and sleep. I was shocked to the core when I had DS that I couldnt just pop him down and carry on.


He was a wriggly,sicky, fidgety,colicky, crying baby. He didnt really have any sleep pattern you could rely on until he was about 7 months old. Eventually though

He is still so small and you are still adjusting to a big change.

A trip to the gp may be wise if you are still feeling realy low.

I dont wish to appear flippant here, but you can still go out you know .

[hermykne]

bumbly take him out in the buggy with you for a brisk walk.
first 12 weeks are hard / life altering and not what you expected.
use the support network and ask for advice / help from whoever.
but not being patronising here at all, he is only out of your tummy and needs reassuring so have all and sundry cuddle him if he needs it, once he is more alert and can visual see things/ recognize your voice he ll settle.

[madmarchhare]

Dont know what happened to the rest of one of my sentences there.

Eventually though... you will come to know what is 'normal' for your baby. There are no hard and fast rules to this lark, hence thousands of books, programmes and websites.