Bad anxiety :(

[MegaClutterSlut]

I'll apologise now incase this is long....found out a week ago that dh was getting too close to a female Co worker. He started mentioning her and said he rarely spoke to her. It turned out after digging that they were emailing several times a day and meeting up on all his breaks for the last few weeks. I'm pretty sure he hasn't cheated but imo he lied and crossed a line.

Ever since then I've been extremely anxious. I can't eat, sleep, feel faint, the shakes, over thinking ALL the time, crying, feeling really low, feel sick, chest pain, sudden waves of panic and more. He has cut contact a week ago but I literally spend the whole day getting anxious he is with her. He is texting me throughout the day to reassure me but it's not enough. I want these tears and feelings to stop 😢

I have an doc appointment for 2 weeks time and have written it all down because I know as soon as I speak I'm going to break. My question is htf do I change my mindset that he's with her all the time and Htf do I stop being so anxious? I've never had these issues before so this is scary. I'm literally driving myself crazy and tormenting myself!

[applesandpears56]

Why on earth have you booked a doctors appointment?

You don’t have anxiety you have a crap husband.

[applesandpears56]

I prescribe you divorce - not anti anxiety medicine

[SchoolGateBeta]

I'd say see a therapist as it sounds like you need to talk this through and decide if you can and want to trust him again. Ask your GP or if you can afford it go private - look at BACP. Or look at relate for couples counselling.

Failing that have some honest conversations with dh to work this through. And what can you do for yourself during this time? How can you distract yourself?

[wineandsunshine]

I disagree - I think you have recognised your anxiety and do need some help.

In the meantime try googling mindfulness techniques they really did help me out.

There maybe relationship issues alongside this which obviously you need to sort out but a good GP will also listen to your concerns and if need be recommended treatment. I went to a therapist and then group therapy and it was fab.
Good luck OP