Apologies, this is going to be a long one. Firstly I'll post about what happened yesterday and then the background as it is all relevant.
My Mum came to visit yesterday to drop off our Xmas presents and so I could give her her presents.
DP, the DC and I are going away for Xmas with the ILs so I won't see her until after Xmas (possibly after New Year).
As soon as she came in and sat down she told me that weeks ago (possibly as long as 2 months ago I can't remember exactly) she passed some blood rectally, a one-off that hasn't recurred. She went to the GP about it at the time, they referred her to a consultant and they were referring her for an appt where they would investigate with a camera. She had an appointment through 2 days ago for 2 weeks time (the day before we get back from our holiday with the ILs).
Now, bearing in mind (as the thread title says) my mum does tend to revel in health issues and almost sounds a bit excited at times that there might be something wrong I did think to myself "here we go again" (sounds horrible I know but theres a background history -please look at the link of my old thread below before berating me ).
Obviously I'm now worried but the more I thought about this last night the more it annoyed me as to why she has told me this now, when we're about to go away for Xmas. This bleed happened 4-8 weeks ago I think so why did she not tell me then? Or when she saw the GP? Or when she saw the consultant? Or even, why didn't she wait until we're back and she's had the hospital appt (the day before we come home) because until then she knows no more than she did weeks ago when she didn't tell me because she "didn't want to worry me"? She's held on to this until a couple of days before we leave and chooses to tell me now.
Oh and the other thing that annoyed me was it wasn't until she was walking out of the front door to go home that she casually mentioned that she'd recently had a test for bowel cancer that was clear so it probably isn't that. Should that not be one of the first things she should have told me after she told me about blood loss etc instead of leaving me thinking "bowel cancer".
Anyway last night I looked up an old thread of mine on here that I started a couple of years ago when she had an irregular mammogram ......Mum who revels in health issues.
What immediately jumped out, that I'd forgotten about, was that that episode was just before Xmas 2 years ago when we were about to spend Xmas with the ILs (we alternate between ILs and my Mum). Coincidence?
My opening post in that link is worth a read for more info if you haven't drifted off by now.
As I said in my last thread I know it makes me sound like a bitch but god she's hard work. Is it because of this that I'm reading too much into her timing of telling me and her almost forgetting to mention the clear bowel cancer test?
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Mum who revels in health issues now possibly ill - I just need to talk about this ....REVISITED
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emptywinebox · 16/12/2014 10:47
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