Hello lovely people of mumsnet. I feel like a bit of an interloper... I am not as yet a mum or TTC but I do have a problem. I am quite badly emetophobic (fear of sickness). I am getting married this July and whilst we do not have any plans to start TTC in the immediate future, I know I want children at some point. The thought of being pregnant, labour etc just fills me with fear and dread rather than excitement and the thought of having to deal with sick children terrifies me further. How on earth could I hope to be a good mother with a debilitating fear like this? Any hint of nausea and I have a panic attack, shake uncontrollably, just generally climb the walls/my DP/ anything else within reach.
I have read some really helpful posts on here but I just do not know how I will cope. I honestly feel like if I get through pregnancy alive it will be a bonus. I could see this hugely impacting our sex life ie as soon as we start TTC I will be massively panicking every time we have sex. I am worried that I will never actually be at a place where I can handle my fear, will never be able to face becoming pregnant and that my DP will leave me. I have spoken to him about this and he is understanding but I just don't think he knows what to say. He says it won't ever mean we split up and given how lovely and kind he is, I know at the moment that this is true. However ten years down the line from now if I still haven't managed to pluck up the courage/get the heck over myself I don't know if this will still be true.
Hugely jumping the gun, probably worrying for nothing. But hey, I'm a worrier. Its what I do. Literally been loosing sleep over this for about the last three to four months. This coupled with the fact that the beautiful wedding dress I bought last year doesn't fit right now (let myself turn into a fatty - stupid stupidness) and I am in full blown panic mode!
TL:DR - emetophobic. probably worrying about things that wont happen. need help. cheers.
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Emetophobia... probably an essay to follow!
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Quellerosien · 17/02/2014 10:09
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