Posting for sister for advice. My sister has a 'friend' (i say it that way as my sister has not been able to consider the woman a friend for about a year now due to these issues) that has had her son taken by social services. She failed to meet the conditions of a care order etc. And now her son is officially entered into care until age 18. Currently staying with a temporary foster family. Son is 10 years old. Sister has known since he was a baby and they were quite close although only saw each other 4/5 times a year. (Theyve been on holiday together with his mum before and sister has cared for him alone once or twice for a day at a time).
Sister wants to apply to our LA to become his long term foster carer. She has always been a steady figure in his life and provided financial and emotional support when it has been needed and feels that she wants to know he is in a loving, permanent home with somebody who is emotionally attached to him and willing to support him no matter the difficulties ahead.
She is married and owns her own home. Her and her husband both work full time but her shifts are very flexible and she can request specific days off / shifts etc. There would always be somebody available for school drop off. After school club would be needed but someone would always be available from 4.45pm onwards as well. They have disposable income, a spare room and no children and no plans to have children.
She understands that there will be contact with his mum required and is willing to encourage this in the hopes that over time his mum can accept that she was in the wrong and build a healthy relationship with her son for adulthood.
There would be adequate family support for emergency childcare.
She's just a bit worried that she is being a bit naive about the whole thing. Neither of us have any experience within the care system or fostering. Is she being naive thinking they can both work full time and still offer him a stable home? Is it better for him to be with someone he knows or is a 'clean break' better? Is he likely to find a long term foster home within the system if she doesn't come forward or is he likely to move from home to home for years to come?
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PriceyIsRighty · 12/01/2016 12:13
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