I'm relocating in the next 9-30 months and once I do I should be able to foster, which is something I've wanted to do since my teens. I just want to think about some practicalities first and wondered if anybody would talk me through a few things I'm not certain on.
My main concern is having a child of "my own" (so to speak), DH and I are keen to have a child once we're settled, what happens when you do have a child whilst fostering? Is your FChild taken from you and resettled elsewhere so that you take a "maternity" of sorts? I really wouldn't want to put a child in that situation but we will likely aim to have a child in the year or two after the move.
If the above is the case, how does respite care actually work? It's something that I'm thinking may be more beneficial anyway, at least at first whilst I get to grips with the system and how everything works. The LA that covers the area we are moving to offers 3-day and 5-day respite placements. Do you get the same child/ren on a rota of sorts? So Jane in week 1, Freddie week 2, Emma in week 3 and then repeat? Or is it unlikely that you'll see the same child twice? Logically I'd think it'd be the same children so that you can get to know them and vice versa but I know that logic can be thrown out of the window when it comes to fostering.
Would being a student (full time or part time but distance learning) be a hindrance to fostering? Along with part-time working? My DH would be working in London and be over an hour away so I would be the primary carer for any foster child. I will be studying, probably full-time from home until we start fostering and then part-time but I'll have a few commitments I would need to do alongside the study. All of which can be done during the school day so not a huge issue with a child who is at school or at the evenings/weekends when DH is home so can take over.
If you have hobbies and activities outside of the home that you do and you have a long term child are you okay to introduce them to those hobbies? If you have a long term school-aged-child when do they have their contact? After school? Weekends? EOW?
Is it better to go via the LA or an agency? Will I have to wait until we buy a house before fostering or will we be okay with renting somewhere? Would pets be an issue? Are you allowed to stay at friend's/family's homes with a long term FC? Is travelling abroad still a no-go with FC?
Do you need to do additional training to work with children with additional needs? Are there any languages that are a bonus at the moment that are worth starting to learn?
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RattieOfCatan · 09/01/2016 23:32
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