I'd be grateful for some thoughts from FCs to try to understand what is going on and how to manage the situation at our end, please.
It was recently our adopted daughter's first birthday with us. The agreed letterbox contact with her birth family was timed to allow them to send her a birthday card in advance. We spent a bit of time talking to her and our son (who is older; she's too little yet to really understand) about this. In the event, we have received nothing from anyone.
I completely understand that this is a difficult time for the parents. But she has a half-sibling who is in long term foster care who hasn't sent anything either. SS say that the FC "have been very busy doing things for X", but I suppose I don't really understand how they couldn't find time to pop a card in the post on her behalf (she's old enough to write in it, but would need them to take the lead in buying it etc). I thought the point of letterbox contact was to allow them to maintain some kind of relationship, which is supposed to be beneficial on both sides.
Do I assume that nothing will ever be forthcoming and manage expectations accordingly at this end, and treat anything that does come as a bonus? (Certainly what I think we will have to do with the parents.) Why wouldn't the FC see it as important to keep to the agreement and send a card (and ideally a letter too)? Isn't it part of their role while looking after the sibling?
Any thoughts welcome!
Thanks in advance!
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FamiliesShareGerms · 10/06/2012 09:40
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