Advice on Sterilization

[MumWithQuestions1988]

Afternoon Folks,

New to this forum but after some advice, I'm 31 in a near 7yr relationship he's 34 and we're getting married next july. I have a daughter (11) and he has a son (15) we do not want anymore children and atm I have the copper coil due to any other contraception making me gain weight. I have depression and Borderline Personality disorder as well as Interstitial cystitis where my urine attacks my bladder and I have the permanent symptoms of a UTI (annoying AF) my periods are heavy & painful due to the coil and I'm considering getting sterilised. My periods flare my IC and it takes ages to get back on track.
We have discussed it in depth and neither of us are going to change my mind but I've still got a niggling feeling in the back of my mind.. my MH illness leaves me feeling paranoid and worried that if I do this and we split (he's assured me he's in it for the long haul) he can still go on to procreate and I'm stuck with tied tubes altho tbh I'm not sure I could bring up another child on my own in the future anyway. I'm 100% sure in my heart that I want to be sterilised I suppose my mind is the one playing tricks on me (damn MH) any advice would be appreciated..

[Kewlwife]

You need to decide if you independently want more children. I think if you already know your feel resentful that he could go onto other relationships where conception is a possibility and you couldn't, you're not in the right place to make a permanent change.