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Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 17:24:41

AIBU to be absolutely fuming my child got a few lines in the school play? I know I sound like a spoilt parent but DD has had a rubbish year, she didn't get into her choice of secondary school all here companions did, understandably she's gutted and although we've chosen a school, while appealing the decision it's still really hard on her and I just feel like maybe the school she's at should of cut her some slack and given her a main role? The main roles have been given to children who didn't even learn their lines or are ᑕᕼIᒪᗪᖇEᑎ Oᖴ ᑭTᔕ ᑭᗩᖇEᑎTᔕ. DD pored her heart and soul into learning her lines and a song she had to perform. It just seems so unfair. I ᒍᑌᔕT ᖴEEᒪ GᑌTTEᗪ ᖴOᖇ ᕼEᖇ ᗩᑎᗪ ᗯIᔕᕼ I ᑕOᑌᒪᗪ ᗪO ᔕOᗰETᕼIᑎG, ᗯᕼIᑕᕼ I ᔕᑌᑭᑭOᔕE ᗯE ᗩᒪᒪ ᖴEEᒪ ᗩT ᔕOᗰE ᑭOIᑎT.

Floggingmolly Tue 16-May-17 17:27:40

How have the children that have been given more lines "not learnt them"? And why was your daughter pouring her heart and soul into learning lines she hadn't been allocated? I don't understand?

Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 17:29:48

ᔕᕼE ᕼᗩᗪ TO ᒪEᗩᖇᑎ ᒪIᑎEᔕ TO ᗩᑌᗪITIOᑎ, ᔕᑭEᑎT ᗩᒪᒪ ᗯEEK ᒪEᗩᖇᑎIᑎG TᕼEᗰ TO ᗷE ᗩᗷᒪE TO ᖇEᑕITE Oᖴᖴ, OTᕼEᖇ KIᗪᔕ ᕼᗩᗪᑎ'T ᗩᑎᗪ ᒍᑌᔕT TOOK TᕼE ᒪIᑎEᔕ Iᑎ ᗯITᕼ TᕼEᗰ TO ᗩᑌᗪITIOᑎ.

Enidblyton1 Tue 16-May-17 17:31:44

flowers we all want the best for our kids.
Don't let her see your disappointment. Is she pleased with her role? Make a big fuss of her and help her to practise so that she performs her few lines brilliantly.
One of DDs friends is a professional actress so always takes small roles in the school plays. Despite having a small role she always really shines because she delivers her lines beautifully and is v confident on stage. Just because you have a small part doesn't mean you can't shine.

Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 17:34:18

I'ᗰ ᗷEIᑎG ᐯEᖇY ᑭOᔕITIᐯE ᗯITᕼ ᕼEᖇ ᗩᑎᗪ I'ᗰ ᗷIGGIᑎG ᕼEᖇ ᑭᗩᖇT ᑌᑭ. ᔕᕼE'ᔕ GᑌTTEᗪ ᗩᑎᗪ ᔕEEᗰᔕ TO TᕼIᑎK ᔕᕼE'ᔕ ᒪET ᕼEᖇᔕEᒪᖴ ᗪOᗯᑎ. I ᗪOᑎ'T ᗰIᑎᗪ ᗯᕼᗩT ᑭᗩᖇT ᔕᕼE GETᔕ Iᗪ ᔕᗯEᒪᒪ ᗯITᕼ ᑭᖇIᗪE EITᕼEᖇ ᗯᗩY, ᒍᑌᔕT ᕼᗩTE ᕼEᖇ ᗷEIᑎG ᑌᑭᔕET ᗩᑎᗪ ᑕᗩᑎ'T ᕼEᒪᑭ TᕼIᑎK ITᔕ ᔕO ᑌᑎᖴᗩIᖇ. IT ᒍᑌᔕT ᔕEEᗰᔕ ᒪIKE ᖴᗩᐯOᖇITIᔕᗰ.

SpaceDinosaur Tue 16-May-17 17:55:57

And it probably is.

Unfortunately life's not fair, people are arseholes and we have to make the most of the hand we are dealt.
She can be spectacular in her role or take it personally.

Just because she's having a shitty time, doesn't mean that the play will be shitty too. She can enjoy everything that goes with a production without the stress and worry of line learning.

If she likes drama is she in a society or a theatre group thing?

How did you make your text all a funny font? !

Floggingmolly Tue 16-May-17 17:57:23

Ah, she'll be fine, bless her.

dodobookends Tue 16-May-17 17:57:32

Well, that's performing arts for you - the director/producer will choose the people that they believe are most suited to the role. They might not necessarily be the best actor, but they are the right person for that particular part. No, it isn't fair on the ones left out, but there you are.

Yes, it is like favouritism unfortunately. The people doing the casting will have a preferred 'type' and they will continue to go for it. Not a lot you can do really.

Witchend Tue 16-May-17 18:57:15

If they weren't told that they had to learn it, then they won't penalise them for not knowing it.

You can't say that they should choose your dd because she'd had a bad year, and then in the next breath say they should have given it to her because iyo she did a better audition.
There may be things you don't know about that mean others have had a bad year anyway.

And that really is an odd font. How do you do it?

Reow Tue 16-May-17 20:02:50

I did performing arts at school, college and university.

I tried so hard, put so much into it, and never got the good parts. I just wasn't as good as some people. Sometimes it seemed unfair, when I tried so much harder than those who got the principal roles, but that's life. They were better than me. You don't get chosen based on who put the most work in.

I'm afraid the harsh truth is that if someone else is better then they will get the role.

I know it seems like the end of the world when you're a teenager, I remember. But sometimes you just have to say fuck it and move on. I do sympathise though. flowers

NennyNooNoo Tue 16-May-17 20:29:31

So how did you do the font?

Lochan Tue 16-May-17 20:32:49

You think she should have got the main part because she didn't get her choice of school? confused


Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 20:33:27

Thanks everyone, a meal out and a glass of wine and I'm feeling better. DD seems better too. As for the font that's DD fault too, she downloaded some bloody rainbow keyboard to my phone and now I can't change it back!! Ah man why isn't being a parent easy?

Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 20:35:35

Lochlan, that and the fact she smashed the audition! She was pretty devastated to be the only child not going to her choice of school so I thought they'd include her a little more. This is her last play at that school with her friends, I may be a little naive but like I said I just hate seeing her upset.

Lochan Tue 16-May-17 20:52:12

But Onsie with the best will in the world you have no idea if she smashed the audition.

There's more to it than knowing all the words.

I'm sorry she's disappointed but you have to be realistic.

Onsiequeen Tue 16-May-17 20:58:16

Your right, I'm just being over protective and sometimes it gets the better of you. I'm sure her 4 lines will be the best 4 lines in the play ☺️

ilikespaghetti Tue 16-May-17 23:29:10

Onesiequeen, sorry to hear about your dd's disappointment, it sounds like she loves drama, is she is any stage type school activity or drama outside school?

Lochan Tue 16-May-17 23:42:48

I bet they will be Onsie and I bet your applause will be the loudest! smile

corythatwas Fri 19-May-17 08:38:45

Now that you've had your moment of upset, you will dust yourself off and enjoy the play. Try not to just enjoy your dd's 4 lines, but the ensemble, the whole play and the fact that she is part of it.

I've done this so many times, with a dd who lived and breathed for performing arts, but had a really horrible time with her health and usually seemed to get very small parts (part of staircase, anyone?) The upshot is that she is going to drama school in the autumn- having gone through two previous rounds of auditioning and rejection. I really think she has learnt more from those rejections (and the staircase!) than she could have learnt from having the red carpet laid down from the start. And the most valuable thing she has learnt is the joy of being part of an ensemble.

Onsiequeen Fri 19-May-17 10:16:05

@corythatwas you're completely right, it's just so hard seeing her try and get rejected. It's all part of life and probably a good character building exercise.

I'm going to be one of those parents that ring to complain employers haven't hired her! Lol. I'm so embarrassing.

She's also joining a drama group and has the opportunity in secondary school to join lots of different clubs so ill just quietly support in the background.

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