I have just landed an amazing career opportunity that I have pursued since June - there was no job, I persuaded them they needed me, so they CREATED the role for me. It's a senior role, great pay, in a small start-up and I have been so excited.
I was also being made redundant, so I had to get a new job whatever.
Then 2 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant.
I thought it would take ages to get pregnant when we came off contraception as I have friends who have been trying much harder for 15-18 months...so we'd felt at our ages (39) we should at least come off contraception to prepare to get pregnant. We were even going to go for fertility tests when I found out it had just happened!
WORST POSSIBLE TIMING. After much soul-searching, discussion and tears (boyfriend wants me to keep it, but cannot help support the baby much yet as he has huge debts he is paying off for the next 3 years) we decided, reluctantly to end the pregnancy - I was booked in tomorrow.
However, I have been increasingly anxious about this decision, and today, decided to go ahead and have the baby.
It will be hard, but doable. We both want this baby and time is NOT on my side. I'm so scared that this would be my one shot and couldn't take that risk.
It is a small company (20 or so employees) so my maternity will make a big difference to their business plans (no one else can cover me as it's a TOTALLY new role and revenue stream).
They are both family men (CEO has 5 kids!) so I'm hoping they'll understand, but they are bound to be hugely disappointed, it's not the most professional way to start a job, and they will massively have to revise the business forecasts as I will only be there 7 months before I leave.
We can't afford to lose this job and really want to do well, prove myself and make myself a valued part of the company. But we want this baby too, even though I will not be eligible for full maternity pay (unless they are incredibly understanding). I am also prepared to only take 3 months off to prove my commitment.
Am I greedy in wanting it all? When should I tell them (12 weeks, 1 month into the job - honesty is best - but then they may terminate me for other reasons before my probation). How have other mums handled this situation - both in telling them, and after the baby is born? Is it possible to juggle a high-flying career and motherhood?
A long post, but so much to consider.
Scared and excited at the same time, on both counts.
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SBizzyB · 23/08/2009 17:05
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